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she is willing to go out with me and do things; that's not the problem
Yeah, the problem is you not making a move.
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also isn't no communication different than disinterest?
Why would you want to show disinterest?
You want to show non-neediness, not disinterest.
You should definitely show interest especially
interest in fucking her.
Remember just to show her through your actions not words.
Stopping to initiate contact doesn't show disinterest, if you do escalate each time you do interact with her.
It shows non-neediness.
Now if you never contact her, then she contacts you and you either brush her off quickly or do the opposite and make boring small talk for 30 minutes, then yeah, she'll think you're not interested and move on.
But if she contacts you and you're
"Hey! I was just starting to miss you! (Or better some flirty inside joke you have)
Been extra busy lately so how about we catch up tonight over drinks?"
(or if it wasn't such a long time since the last time you two spoke then "Something great happened to me today so let's go out and celebrate!", whatever just adapt it)
Then not only do you show interest but you also create the perfect opportunity to escalate.
If she's interested she'll either accept or propose some other time.
If not she'll refuse, at which point you either say "Cool, see you later." or not respond at all.