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PostPosted: Sat Oct 22, 2016 9:56 am 
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Well I've known this girl for maybe 6 months now, she has suddenly gone quiet. I was wondering what shall I do, this is definitely not like her as she texts me everyday. She posts on social media still. Shall I confront her about it? Or just leave her for now. It's been about 3 days and there is obviously something up with her.


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PostPosted: Sat Oct 22, 2016 3:23 pm 
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What do you mean when you say that you've known her for 6 months? Just texting? Going on dates? Having sex? Hard to tell you what you should do if you keep things so vague.

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PostPosted: Sat Oct 22, 2016 6:06 pm 
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Well I've known this girl for maybe 6 months now, she has suddenly gone quiet. I was wondering what shall I do, this is definitely not like her as she texts me everyday. She posts on social media still. Shall I confront her about it? Or just leave her for now. It's been about 3 days and there is obviously something up with her.
If she doesn't talk to you, you can ask her if you have done something that she didn't like or you can stop talking to her. She will probably miss the conversations with you.


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PostPosted: Sat Oct 22, 2016 6:12 pm 
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Maybe you pressed mute by accident.


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PostPosted: Sun Oct 23, 2016 12:53 am 
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Lol is this the same girl from that Facebook post

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PostPosted: Sun Oct 23, 2016 10:25 am 
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This is a different girl, I just went silent and she messaged asking how I was doing and she wanted to know what I've been up to.


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What do you mean when you say that you've known her for 6 months? Just texting? Going on dates? Having sex? Hard to tell you what you should do if you keep things so vague.
Moose if you want answers that fit your situations you're gonna have to explain the situation first.

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 26, 2016 9:00 pm 
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well i've known this girl for about 5 months now, we have just been friends but talk to each other daily and get along amazing! were both flirty with each other. recently she seems to be avoiding me but will still text me, I barely initiate contact it's always her messaging me first. we haven't met up in a while as shes been busy moving house and going on holiday, I called her up to ask her out but said she was busy and didn't really give me an alternative, just said we will meet up sometime when she's free.

the problem is she keeps texting me, I always reply but i'm trying to keep the chat to a minimum. I don't really know what else to do.

I'm seeing another girl at the moment but it's pretty casual and i'm not that invested. any advice? i'm guessing the thing to do is completely ignore her until she brings up meeting up.


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 26, 2016 9:35 pm 
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well i've known this girl for about 5 months now, we have just been friends but talk to each other daily and get along amazing! were both flirty with each other. recently she seems to be avoiding me but will still text me, I barely initiate contact it's always her messaging me first. we haven't met up in a while as shes been busy moving house and going on holiday, I called her up to ask her out but said she was busy and didn't really give me an alternative, just said we will meet up sometime when she's free.

the problem is she keeps texting me, I always reply but i'm trying to keep the chat to a minimum. I don't really know what else to do.

I'm seeing another girl at the moment but it's pretty casual and i'm not that invested. any advice? i'm guessing the thing to do is completely ignore her until she brings up meeting up.
You're a hard person to help. Your entire history seems to be made up of women who reach out to you for attention and then string you along. The two things thing that seems to be in common with the few that you've talked about is

1. they contact you and you jump and
2. you have issues with them after months of nothing more of being friendly. Friendly dates and friendly texts.

We've talked to you about it multiple times in the past...YOU NEED TO ESCALATE and you keep saying you have problems doing that and at one point the reasoning is that you don't know how.

The fact that you say that this girl and you have been friends for months says a lot about what's going on here. When a girl is attracted to you, the moment you start to bore her will be the end of that attraction. If you expect her to not talk to another guy in those five months while you call her a "friend" then you're being delusional. You'll always lose out to the guy that will capitalize on the attraction between them.

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well i've known this girl for about 5 months now, we have just been friends but talk to each other daily and get along amazing! were both flirty with each other. recently she seems to be avoiding me but will still text me, I barely initiate contact it's always her messaging me first. we haven't met up in a while as shes been busy moving house and going on holiday, I called her up to ask her out but said she was busy and didn't really give me an alternative, just said we will meet up sometime when she's free.

the problem is she keeps texting me, I always reply but i'm trying to keep the chat to a minimum. I don't really know what else to do.

I'm seeing another girl at the moment but it's pretty casual and i'm not that invested. any advice? i'm guessing the thing to do is completely ignore her until she brings up meeting up.
You're a hard person to help. Your entire history seems to be made up of women who reach out to you for attention and then string you along. The two things thing that seems to be in common with the few that you've talked about is

1. they contact you and you jump and
2. you have issues with them after months of nothing more of being friendly. Friendly dates and friendly texts.

We've talked to you about it multiple times in the past...YOU NEED TO ESCALATE and you keep saying you have problems doing that and at one point the reasoning is that you don't know how.

The fact that you say that this girl and you have been friends for months says a lot about what's going on here. When a girl is attracted to you, the moment you start to bore her will be the end of that attraction. If you expect her to not talk to another guy in those five months while you call her a "friend" then you're being delusional. You'll always lose out to the guy that will capitalize on the attraction between them.
This

OMG, this is the exact same situation.

Simple rule Moose, if a chick is not meeting up with you, delete and block because she's wasting your time. And lol...confront her on what? Your a phone buddy. What are you gonna confront her on? "Hey, whats up with you not continuing our text conversations?"


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 27, 2016 6:50 am 
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Moose I don't really know what you expect from these interactions to begin with.

I mean, what's the natural flow in your mind?
1) Meet woman
2) Befriend her
3) Remain friends for arbitrary number of months?

Cool. But what is it that you expect from them? Do you expect intimacy? Anything remotely close to that? Because if you do then explain how and where that comes into play.

I just don't understand the way you go about it. It's like staying at home all day, not even bothering to find a job - let alone work it - yet at the end of the month you still expect a salary?
Literally, for what?

Like Jack said, she may very well have been attracted to you. But you are not attracted to her. Or you may be, but you're certainly not showing it. So what do you expect her to do? Keep chasing a guy whose actions show literally minimal to no interest?

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 27, 2016 12:34 pm 
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Well I've not really been looking into it too much, just kinda been hanging out and if anything happens naturally then go from there, in the past I always try to force it or read the signals wrong, and it scares them away.

We haven't met up that much and it's been her texting me, she talks about inviting me to weddings and on holiday with her next year.

I am attracted to her, she runs hot and cold which is difficult to read. I asked her out this weekend but said she was busy and we can meet up soon. To me this is indicates a low level of attraction, but then she will message me again.

I went silent for those couple of days and she then messages me asking why I haven't messaged her and what I've been up to.

Simple if she liked me she would be saying yes to meeting up, there must be some other guy in the picture recently. My question is how do I really show her I like her? I have trouble with this. If I go silent she still messages me, should I just ask her what's up?


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My question is how do I really show her I like her? I have trouble with this.
Buy showing sexual interest, not friendship interest. You seem to be good at playing it cool around girls, which is too bad because playing it cool works about as often as being needy.
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just kinda been hanging out and if anything happens naturally
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Everyone has its own views because we all don't know what was the exact situation am I right?

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Everyone has its own views because we all don't know what was the exact situation am I right?
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