I thought this was a good time to address an issue that I see with guys nowadays: the impatience, the too much focus on that one girl, the desperation etc.
Embrace your dry spell. That's right, I said it. If you don't like your situation, it is up to you to change. You have the power to change. If you hate rejection, oh well, it doesn't like you either, it wants you to have an affair with success and possibly marry it... It doesn't like seeing your ugly mug as much as you think it does. Some guys stay in idolization of our respected PUA's here and I feel like the PUA's are getting tired of saying the same thing over and over again to the point where we are having jokes at your expense. I mean it is all in good fun but you guys should be pro active and search out your answers. I went through many books and tested them out. They didn't fit me. But I made an effort.
"Just go for it or just relax and take a breather, move on to other girls, escalate"
Blah blah blah. Now when I got out of a relationship about 3 months ago, I had no hoes. I had to reread the material, I had to restart the process over of getting my smooth as silk persona back and I knew I would be dealing with rejections in the beginning. I expected it because I went through it in the beginning when I was starting out years ago. I knew to get to the other side of the road I would have to deal with resistance and keep pushing forward in spite of these obstacles. Now, I was on a dry spell for 3-4 weeks but I planted seeds, and I waited for those seeds to grow. In the meantime I went to the gym, I changed my eating habits, I got a new haircut, I got new clothes, and I got a new job with the intention of getting another job in the future.
I prepared myself for success. That is what I did for those 3-4 weeks. I made damn sure when these seeds started to sprout so I already had a lifestyle change that these women will naturally be apart of. Of course I dabbled in porn, I was in a dry spell and I knew I was horny but I kept myself busy while at the same time relearning concepts, revisiting my old posts, remembering the single life. For christ sakes I even went out 3 times each of those weeks and I went home alone 9 times with my hand on my dick. And every morning I woke up wishing I got laid, but I remembered that this is temporary, I will eventually defeat the dry spell.
Some of you are probably saying "Oh, but I have been in a dry spell for years" well I lost my virginity at 19. I found the community and I was prepared to learn, I was prepared to fail. I went through the trials and errors. I lost many girls but I grew a thick skin and eventually I became a player. Sometimes, when some of you ask what you should do in a situation, you should honestly be in the moment and learn from the experience. If you fuck up, just shrug it off...stop placing some much emphasis on the interaction. Girls aren't stupid, they know when they are controlling an interaction, don't give them that power. Have patience, know when to strike.
We can't hold your hand all the way to the bedroom. You have to figure some things out. We will gladly help you achieve your goals but sometimes these questions are trivial and you could have answered it yourself by finding answers on your own.
Hell, I even need help here and there, I don't know everything. I am always a student and my game doesn't mind acquiring new information so I can become even better. Be humble, be courageous, but most of all, get ready to fail. Prepare yourself for a long road, I hope to see you on the other side of the fence.
Now, what is your excuse ?
A wise man talks because he has something to say. A fool talks because he has to say something
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