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Wouldn't have had to drop by or email her if you would have nailed it down when she said "I'm free Saturday." This is a wide open space she was giving you, she set it right up for you. Lesson learned. Let the regret from this episode spur you on to meet the next girls.
This is a very salient point.
9's and 10's will set up the tee like this, and watch how the man handles it. This will tell them pretty much all they need to know if he's a dominant male or not.
Waffling on this major opening hints at a lack of self-awareness (I'm not saying the OP has this, but this is the thinking, and I'm not judging the OP in any way, I too have fumbled things just like this in the past because the woman was gorgeous). It tells the woman that if you can't lead in that situation, you probably can't lead in other areas as well (dominant in bed, leading surprising get togethers, etc).
When you failed to dominate her opening, you became submissive in her eyes. And showing up at her office, and then writing a princess email definitely comes off as submissive, justifying her initial decision.
9's and 10's want a man to take control, so they can feel feminine. They don't want their ass kissed, they want to be challenged.
Her: "I'm free Saturday"
You, two seconds later: "Cool, let's meet *insert favorite bar here* at 7".
No need to exchange numbers at all, she offered a day!
At the bar, towards the end:
You "This has been really cool. Let's head back to my place for a movie."
Her: "okay"
At your place, she sets her purse down on your kitchen table and turns towards you.
You: Go in for the kiss. Maybe, maybe you reach for the remote for one second.
All of these things are the SAME. They are a man leading. These actions are what 9's and 10's crave.
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