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I think I will try to patch the wounds and be her friend, and then let the rest be orginical chemestry.
The thing is she does like me, and have explicity said that she would consider me as a partner but she just broke up with this abusive guy. However I do not want to tie her down I want her to live her life but I still like her a lot and would rather be friends then nothing.
She clearly wants to be friends with me there is no doubt about that but maybe not after this episode.
Take this scenario. You broke up with a girl you really liked 1 month ago. You are currently seeing 2 girls. The one is decent looking, you are fine with each other, discussion can be a little boring and there is no huge sexual spark. She seems like she would want something serious while you would be looking more into occasional sex if that happens.
Second girl, is insanely beautiful, witty, fun, sexy and has a good career. You are having humorous and intelligent conversations and if you had the chance you would to put her in the corner at the first opportunity and get down to business. She is a great long term girlfriend potential.
You still have feelings for you ex and you don't want to mess around with other people's feelings. You might have to let girl A down if you are not interested. BUT... Would you even think about telling Girl B anything that might have turned her off and takes it as a rejection? NOPE. You wouldn't.
So, as you understand this girl just let you down easily saying that she is not really attracted to you.
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Maybe I will just have a good talk tell her where I'm coming from and what I expect out of our relationship. I think that is the way to go.
No, don't do that. I 'll make a more extreme analogy. Let's say that there is the ugly, fat unattractive girl in your social circle, she is kind of smart, you get along and can have a laugh sometimes so you are ok being in her company. Then she reveals she has feelings for you. Isn't it going to change the dynamic of all the future interactions? Telling someone how you feel about them is not going to change how they feel about you. Well if you did anyway tell her then it is not realistic to remain friends, it would be better for you to stop all contact so that you can move on, unless you wouldn't mind seeing her with another guy sooner or later.