I'm interested in the idea of having a cheat week or two in a relationship for her and i. The only thing making me reconsider is the idea that it may not be healthy towards a relationship. What are your thoughts on this?

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Obviously this sounds like your Gf's suggestion. Again, you 2 want different things

Neo seems to know your situation...

How did this come about and how do you truly feel about it ?

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I thought about it a bit, and I'm not in scarcity. I feel like it would be exciting to have a week off and be able to do that. I'm just curious on whether or not that is healthy. I don't want it to hurt our relationship.

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Only you can decide that for yourself. Look at what you value, what does your girl value ? Do you foresee any problems arising with going through with this ? We all work differently, but in the end we only know ourselves. Then again I don't know the situation since it seems like you talked about it in another posts.


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You wrote this in a post about two months ago and then a couple of weeks later you announced that it was no longer an open relationship and the two of you were exclusive. If you need a cheat week in a relationship that hasn't even been monogamous for 3 months, then I'd say something was very wrong with this. You guys should still be in your "honeymoon" phase. Why don't you let it go back to being an open relationship until you are ready to make a real commitment?

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I understand how it can sound like something is wrong. In most relationship's when something like this comes up, i see why it would seem like a red flag. We are both young, and we care a lot about eachother. It's also both our first relationship in a long time, and we are learning as we go.

This may not be me, but what my question is primarily asking is. If two people are very confidant in themselves as individuals and start a relationship then both agree that it would be fun to try out a cheat week. Could it hurt the relationship?

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You either are exclusive or you have an open relationship. I've never heard before of "cheat week", how does it even work? You plan ahead when you will fuck somebody else?

In the end you can't ride two horses at a time.

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You should ask yourselves why you want to do it first. Do you both want more sexual diversity? Are there ways in which you do not complete each other (she likes opera, you like heavy metal concerts)?

Also, why one week and not one lay?

As for it being healthy, some people live very healthy open relationships, and most people live unhealthy monogamous relationships. It only depends on how both of you will deal with your choices.

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I thought perhaps this post was asking about a bodybuilding diet for cutting.

I wrote an article called " Should Men Be Allowed A Cheat Day in Relationships".. Look it up.

It will fully answer your question.

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I dont mean to pop your bubble but you kind of not seeing the truth of the nature. Both of you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Both of you are in your first serious relationship. That alone is a sign that tells you it might not last forever. Neither of you know exactly what you want yet or else you wouldnt need a cheat day or week. Neither of you are truely in love with each other. If you was, you wouldnt need a cheat week so soon.

To answer your question directly. No it is not healthy for a LTR. Especially if your allowing this in the beginning phase of your relationship. If either of you has too much fun, you will want to do it again in the future. You also run the risk of creating a better connection with someone else during this cheat week. So if you don't care about the jeolousy, and risk of loosing her, go for it or just go back to an open relationship.

Zeru how many times do we have to let you know this relationship will end very badly for you?
Being young and inexperienced is not an excuse for putting other people's needs above your own.

She wants to fuck around. You want stability.
You're giving her what she wants and implicitly sacrificing your wants in the process.

You are not compatible with each other.

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