First, relax and don't take it personal. This is a chick you met at a party... She's not flaking on you or standing you up... She's just responding slow. Which is to be expected with a chick from some party. Don't take it personally. You're not a priority to respond to you. So... You have a chick who's not crazy for you and trying to get a date when she's busy. What you should have done was pulled back on the invites and worked the interest. Ping her things that get a reaction... That she HAS to respond to quickly. By pinging her you gain more interest, show you're relaxed and not hounding her and you're fun. Then when she is responding quickly in a couple days, you hit her up and chat when you know she's free. Then you get the solid date.

Id say not to send her that message because you're giving her a specific time a WEEK from now?! No. When is she free? Let her tell you that. You're gonna peg her into next Saturday at 8. Man I don't know what I'm doing next Saturday at 8 so I would ignore you as she prob will. It's too big of a hoop.

Man i hate conflicting information haha, im not sure whats right and whats wrong now, i guess both make some sense. Thing is i already sent that text before reading your post

Nothing is conflicting in the advices in this thread. I think 4 to 5 weeks have passed. So many things can happen during that period of time.

As a rule, when you first meet a girl and make a great impact on her on different planes: emotional, intellectual, sexual and so on, her interest in you will be quite high. She might even be crazy enough for you and ride your dick right then and there.

However, that interest level will die down when you let your windows of opportunity pass by. Unlike men, women's hormones fluctuate in a volatile manner periodically. This affects their emotional states from one mood swing to another. One moment, they feel very horny for you and then the next day, they find you very repulsive. This is the nature of the Homo sapiens female. It's NORMAL.

Simply, her interest level in you went down which was validated by how she reacted to your text messages. At this point in time, your mindset and text messages need a lot of improvement. As Neo said, you have to bring that interest level up again, somehow. If you can no longer do that, sarge other girls.

In this sense, it is mission critical that you close the deal as soon as possible when the iron is still hot. When a woman has invested much in you already through sex, that interest level isn't going to go down as easily.

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She responded

Me: So, i happen to be free next week saturday, we should meet up, 8PM?"

Her: Haha well you're pretty straight forward arent you

Her: but yeah we should, what did you have in mind? Or do you still not want to spoil your ideas?


So now im kind of thinking how i can kind of "under promise" and "over deliver" as a wise man once told me

Should i just tell her what were gonna do?

"We're gonna play some pool and go for drink afterwards" ?

Thing is she lives 35 minutes away, she doesnt have a car, i do. Logic tells me i should go to her, thing is i can't just invite myself over to her house if you know what i mean? (But sh edid say she didnt mind just watching a movie and relaxing at someones house)

She lives with her parents still

So it would be better if she would come to me but she has to
Go with train etc. really annoying

What would you guys say/do in this specific situation?

Thanks, interesting

Guess it makes sense seeing as one day she flakes and doesnt respond for 3 days and now she immedeatly responds when she got my message and agrees to meeting up lol

I must commend you in that she is still interested. Good job.
You can see how curious she is (as all women are) and she loves surprises (as all women do).

Keep it a secret for the most part, especially since if she flakes it'll make you feel worse for telling her all of these plans only to have her flake. I see no reason why ur date couldn't involve some small thing and then bouncing to your place for the relaxing movie that she proposed. So that the date was both your idea (the first thing) and her idea (chill w/ a movie). If you manage to get her out, I think she'd eat up that explanation.

Buy one of those 1$ lottery tickets where you scrape it off with a penny. I forget what it's called in English but I'm sure you know what I mean.
Tell her to scrape it off and if you guys win the jackpot she can have an icecream.

It's a fun little unique thing.

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I think that she was dtf (down to fuck) at the time..but as you well know..if you have been gaming for a while, you know that girls can change their minds at any point in time (largely because their mood or intentions have changed over time). This type of girls are "flaky". Which is not your fault, and there is not much in the way that you can do about that. Because you can only control what you do, you can't control what she does.

But on your part..you definitely want to try not to catch feelings for the girl, like lovestruck and mushy-like feelings..especially if you want to be a player type of guy (ie a pick-up artist). And especially..if that wasn't the persona or vibe that you first presented the girl with when you picked her up (ie the facebook close). Which is a congruence issue. What you could've done was made your response to her more non-reactive and non-needy, and she might've actually responded back to you at some point. The best way to do that is to DHV (domonstrating high value) by talking to other girls (ie having other shit going on in your life than that 1 girl) while you were waiting for her response. And by default..you would've been non-reactive and non-needy for the girl's attention anyway. She would've probably been drawn in by your abundance and responded to you eventually. Maybe not right away, but she probably would have. But because you responded re-actively and you were kinda needy..you probably DLV'd (demonstrated low value), and she lost attraction for you.

I hope that helped.


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As has been written here and other other forums ad infinitum, when women put off a date for more than 48 hours, it is to look for better offers and then flake at the last minute. Many PUAs will take issue with this next statement, but it must be said- it's not the angler's skill, because ultimately the fish hooks itself. When a woman wants you, it's immediate, and she will want to see you right away. Do not respond to her ever, delete her from facebook after friending her friends (interesting to you...even her guy friends will have a gaggle of women in their network), block her phone number, and don't think about this woman anymore. Don't write to her facebook friends; let them write to you to avoid any complaints at FB and to use that new network for Tinder or Hinge when you are bored.

Write down this experience in your journal where you have cataloged the women according to every category/clue important to you for future reference.

texted her and used some advice i got on this forum


previous texts:

Me: So, i happen to be free next week saturday, we should meet up, 8PM?"

Her: Haha well you're pretty straight forward arent you

Her: but yeah we should, what did you have in mind? Or do you still not want to spoil your ideas?


New texts

Me: We're just gonna go out and have a little fun, and afterwards if im still not tired of you we can go and relax at home, so you did have some input in it after all

38 hours later she responded ....

Her: Haha, all fine with me, i hope you aren't tired of me already ..



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It seems to me her interested is way less than it was before but she still agreed to the meetup, not quiet sure what to think, as some people said she seemed DTF eventho she's very young still and a virgin (18) So im not sure what to think of that either

I was thinking of just not saying anything at all, then on wednesday or maybe thursday i send her a text

"So i was thinking it would be better if i would come to you instead of you coming to me, so unless you really insist on coming here we're gonna do that"

She lives 30-40 minutes away from me, i have a car and she doesn't, also this way there's less chance of a flake

Just tell her to text you the address so you can pick her up.

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Don't overthinking too much. LISTEN more. FOCUS on her not YOURSELF or YOUR GAME. Guys that do this tend to miss out on all the cues and opportunity to move forwards.

She did give you the green light to come over and fuck. But you were too focus on HOW you should PLAY your game and missed it.

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Going over this saturday to her

She's home alone and we're gonna watch a movie and maybe go out for a few drinks

Wish me luck, and thanks for all the advice , will keep you updated

Guess im not going, lol

Her: "I did some thinking and i dont really feel that comfortable inviting you over to my house when we don't even really know eachother that well. I think its better if we see eachother again at *Party that we're going to in 3 weeks* and from there on decide if we want to see eachother again. I feel pretty bad for cancelling.. This has nothing to do with you, its nothing personal, its just that this way i feel more comfortable"

"One moment i think Yeah! Fun, lets meet, why am i so worried. And the other moment i feel uncomfortable again, i hope you can understand?"


Time to move on, tired of this lol

Good job.

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