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Tell us what the problem is that everyone else recognizes that you think I am missing. From my perspective, the OP did not communicate that he would man up in terms of getting what he wants in a relationship. A communication that he only further enforced with his behavior. He can either communicate that now or he can go on in the same way he has been.
The problem is that they are not living as man and wife. This doesn't mean that he can stick his dick in her and make it happen again, which you eluded to. It also means that he can't take away what attention she is getting, which you also eluded to. They both have problems in this relationship and the OP doesn't know what it is. If he wants to know what her problem is, he's going to have to find out from her.
I don't get you, at first you say no communication...now you say he can communicate now or go in the same direction.
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Problems are a result of misunderstandings that can be fixed with understanding. You still come from the perspective that someone can teach you something, which is never the case. Everything you will learn or have already learned has come inside of you. Through outside inspiration you can bring that knowledge to light. I know we've gone over this before, but you still seem to think you cause someone to do something.
More shit that you're full of. Misunderstandings can be fixed with communication, which everyone has been saying except for you. Your solution...fix your sex game and deprive her of attention.
And again, you say things that you don't really believe. Weren't you the one saying that you can TEACH me game. You're also the one that got upset because people were calling you out in posts and keeping your "fans" from LEARNING.
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Only by nominalizing something can you re-enforce the limitations. Because it is "a marriage" there comes with it all these assumptions of how things are supposed to be. With these kind of limitations I can see why it is hard for you to consider relationships in new ways.
Because I say that problems can be solved in marriages and relationships with communication, that's a limitation? I understand why you don't get it. You're an idea man. This is just another one of your ideas.
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"Why is the house so dirty?"
She says blah blah.
You say, "Oh ok well I'm going over to my friends so I can relax."
You just communicated to her that you don't want a dirty house. She will also catch on and be trained after something like this as well. If of course she cares, you are doing the right things in the relationship and your light is valuable to her. If you didn't get it your light is your attention, not talking about sex if you get confused.
Passive aggressive. Plus training implies that the person can learn. According to you, you can't teach her and everything that she has learned is already within her.
Don't worry, I get it. I also get that >50% of women admit to cheating in a marriage. The reason they always give is they don't get the attention that they feel they deserve. Your IDEAS will have OPs wife having sex once a week but it won't be with the OP.
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