women with kids are usually much more insecure than those without, so they will take any D that comes their way. i know thats a rude generalized statement, but ive definately noticed it. they know having a kid is seirous baggage and a big turnoff for guys...

sexting is complicated because there is an on/off switch. she might be really horned up thursday night sexting you, but friday morning shes bloated or something pissed her off at work and then shes off....sometimes just gotta let it slide and ignore for a bit, it will drive up her curiosity and make her more thirsty when you dont give her too much attention.


i would hold off on the picture or anything too serious until meet up. you already got her in the bag, just keep it simple and to the point...use text to only set up the meet.

Your a 27 yo, supposedly grown ass man? She's an easy 18 yo slut that's already pooped out a pup?

Whats the issue again?

Picking her up at the playground awkward?

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the issue is he feels awkward looking at the face of an 18 year old while hes fucking her....

unreal...im getting hard just thinking about the time i banged a girl fresh on her 18th birthday when i was 25....the look on her face was fucking priceless when i was missionary and really got into stride....pain, pleasure, and more pain lol.... how can you NOT like a girls fuck face? i just dont get it...

Just find the position awkward? I'm tall.

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I have issues with anxiety causing ED as well, so here's my 2c:

I'd also skip the viagra, it never helped me when I tried it because it treats the physical causes of ED and we're experiencing psychological causes. A sex therapist recommended Cialis instead but I haven't really tried it.

The most important thing is to not let yourself be anxious, because that's causing the problem. You need to let yourself relax and not be thinking. The moment you start thinking about your problem you're screwed.

You mentioned general anxiety... are you seeing a therapist? Dealing with the general anxiety will help, and if they've given you some techniques maybe using them before this girl comes over will work.

For the face thing... you don't have to look at her face to do missionary. You can have your eyes closed or even be kissing her so you don't really need to look at her face. Or use other positions like others have said.

What's most important right now is to STOP all the negative self-talk...it just ensures you'll be freaked out when she gets there. When you think of this, try to think of it positively. Imagine all the things you sexted to each other, and imagine them working. Don't just re-read the texts, actually picture it happening and try to imagine how great it will feel.

Just what I can add.

My first girl. I had no experience. She was impressed by how confident I was in bed. But I did nothing special. I just never panicked, and I guess that's all?.

I know it would put a burden on me as well, a girl texting that she is getting all wet. Oh boy. But you can just tell her. Let her know of your insecurity. And she will let you know of hers?

I mean, how obvious is it that you can just tell her?

Why hide it from her exactly? Because you don't want to come across as insecure? But if you don't let it out, you will.

Speaking about these things creates communion and gives her permission to speak of it also? Or am I so wrong here? It looks like to me that you're looking for a difficult solution when there's an easy one....

This .

By the way, stop telling yourself that she doesn't want you, and stop talking about her or treating her as "just some fuck". And here is the answer: it doesn't matter if she doesn't want you. Because there will be another one, and another one. And you can't fail, you can only get more confident.

And I would seriously suggest just speaking up or out about something about what you are saying here. Just say you are nervous. Just say you are a bit anxious, but you may want to avoid that word at first. Just mention *something* about it. "I don't know what to talk about". Well, DUH? Talk about what you feel, perhaps? Age difference? Nonsense. That's just something you tell yourself. You can talk about each other just fine. Don't get stuck in this isolation thing.

Hell, I can talk to 13 year olds just fine. What's the crap about not being able to talk to children?

Like, who invented that? I don't get it. She is 18, and currently, she is constantly thinking about sex. With you, even. And she might get nervous. So speak out about some of that. It is good to mention it here first. But it's not a bad thing. It's just a silly thing. It's silly because you can just tell her. "You know I'm really nervous?"

I'm crap at getting girls I guess but I usually just say what's on my mind. Maybe I'm a bit cynical at times. And that rubs off on people. But still.

Like, some girl I had given a soft kick against her leg for ignoring me or not (in any polite sense) doing what I asked her to and who was up in arms about that now suddenly acted nice to me again and sat at my door (of a room) for some time just chilling. Okay maybe the kick was less soft than I had intended, and she is a horror of a girl. Still. Nature works in mysterious ways some time. Just don't sweat it so much. Speak your mind, more often in any case.

What do you have to lose really? That people know you? That is win. That is always win. People can't do what you want if they don't know what you want. ;D.

And there is always gonna be *someone* who is going to be interested in doing what you want .

You just gotta find that person, or several of them. But they can't find you if no one knows about you .

I took that lesson from somewhere else, as well. So risk being "sushi" and risk losing some people now and then, if the win is that more people know about the real you.

yea to add.....lots of folks have semi embarassing first sex experiances. with two of my LTRs the first time, i busted in her and we had an awkward trip to planned parenthood the next day lol. the second one i lost wood halfway through due to anxiety...but i played it off cool like "haha this is weird usually i cant keep it down!" just lie around, suck some titties, feel her skin and hair, and it will all come back and i laid the pipe quite proper and locked her down that night.

an embarassing first situation is not the end of the world...girls understand it usually. when i lived with my girlfriends i would hear stories ALLLLL the time from their friends about guys not being able to keep it up after drinking etc, yet those girls would still go out with those guys later. and i would drink and shake their hands knowing their secrets lol.....so many guys, you have no idea. some of the most bravado pimp player guys would have some ED reviews from the girls but it didnt really matter. i know of another guy who literally lost wood halfway through, and passed out with the condom and woke up laughing and bragging about it the next morning like it was cool. the chick was still super sprung off of him....

Yes, this. Go back to foreplay or even just relax and spoon her, once you relax and stop "trying" you're dick will be ready to take charge!
Wow... I wish someone had been around to tell me this stuff 7 years ago. I was borderline suicidal after it happened to me and the girl broke up with me the next day. (Said she'd been seeing someone else at the same time, I assumed she was making that up.) Anyway, good to know it's so common. That really does help.

Just having a few beers so excuse me if I ramble. It was weird when I was in that relationship back in the day because I never used condoms and I literally would stick it in as a soon as I got hard regardless of foreplay because I was afriad of losing it. Ok so I would suck her tits and kiss her but I'd soon have to get her to bend over.

She was terrible in bed aswell, really had no desire to give me pleasure and probably only went slutty on me once in 3 years. Now this girl looks great...I guess I'm worried of her being used to these alpha males. I haven't checked a doctor about my anxiety/depression because I'm not sure how to talk about it. I feel it is one of the reasons I have problems, aswell as high blood pressure and I also injured the poor fella back in 1999.

Yeah it was that injury and although I got erections after I almost felt everything that turned me on before was dull to me. It takes a lot of work to get it up and sometimes it feels like it gets tired of being up and then once it goes down that's it. I have some generic cialis and will give it a try but I've had mixed results with ED drugs. Once I went a whole month without masturbating and took viagra and went to a hooker and still nothing happened.

Do you know she's been with a lot of "alpha males" or do you just imagine that? Ever watch Revenge of the Nerds? Might be one of the sequels there's a scene where the nerd finally gets the girl, and she comments on how much better he is than the jocks she's used to. Why? "Because jocks spend all their time thinking about sports, while nerds spend all their time thinking about sex."
Go to a therapist. You can start by telling him you aren't sure how to talk about it. Just do it.
Have you talked to a medical doctor about this? If not, do so. If you have, maybe see a specialist or at least some second and third opinions.

Yeah just talk to anyone about it.

And once you've been in bed with the girl you can talk about it to her too.

And prior to that you can already talk about being nervous because it is a common thing and she is going to be nervous too. Just don't think you are anything special, okay?

That's the whole illusion here, that you are somehow special and less "human" or "humanly flawed" than other people are. It's not. Everyone has issues. The whole crap about "I don't want anyone with issues" is not true. People lie to themselves. No one is perfect and as long as you think you need to be - this creates anxiety with girls as well and why they use so much make up. Because they are insecure and anxious.

They are insecure that once the guy gets to know their real "you" (me, her) that he will then dump her. Girls are afraid of that. Of being known. So they try to appear pretty on the outside and hope you won't find out about her "bad traits" (she has been told that numerous times during her life, starting with her parents) or more objectively, her obnoxiousness, her nervousness, her sillyness, whatever. Too soon. Sorry can't write here all too well.

Girls are insecure okay and they are afraid you will dump them once you find out about them.

So you're not the only person in this boat okay. Everyone is, really.

You're terrified of having sex with an 18yo slut that has a kid. Because missionary?


Sometimes I don't even..

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I asked her out last week and she said she wasn't sure but then text me on the day asking me if I was ok.

I asked her out again this week to go out tonight and she said she would have to check her mums schedule and will let me know today and she hasn't contacted me.