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Dear OP, you've already got the advice you needed multiple times. But the fact that this thread is still going on (and not locked either) is because you haven't got the advice you Wanted to Hear. So here I am for that.
Some girls are really bitchy/manipulative psychos and they'll misinterpret your "good intentions". Also, a lot of times, tonality gets misinterpreted on text since all you have is a bunch of letters and some dumb smileys. So your message gave the wrong vibe (unintentionally ofcourse) and here's why.
--> "You wanted to share your problems" (or whatever your original words) = asking girl favour = neediness
--> On the other hand you said "the reason I chose you" = Try Hard DHV? = Incongruent = Fake Alpha
So you did totally 2 opposite things simultaneously. It's like some one you don't like comes to you and says
"Hey dude I'm borrowing your car and won't pay for the gas. You should be thankful I chose you"
(Credits to whoever gave this example on other thread)
How do you think you are going to react on this one OP?
SO that's what happened. Peace
Dude, you got solid advice right there. It's time to man up and know that you're the one in the wrong, not them. If they're blocking you right of the bat, it's because:
1: you don't have rapport with her
2: you're coming across as needy as f**k
3: you need to look at yourself and stop thinking they owe you something, because it's up to you to work for yourself.
4: you've got some latent self esteem issues that go alot deeper than we can point you too. It's seriously time to see a therapist. You need to find the root of your problem and solve it.
and 5: don't expect to have someone else solve YOUR problems for you. That's what a man does, he solves the problems that comes his way to the best of his ability. there's an old saying "God helps those who help themselves" If you want to fix it, then get off your ass and do something about it. don't moan and groan and hope someone else has the answer, you're the only one that can live your life.
find out why you're needy, jealous, insecure, envious and fix it. If you have to find a therapist, then do it. Don't be so proud to think it wont help. If it fixes the problem, or points you in the right direction than do it.
remember it takes something 21 times to become a habit. just like working out, if you exercise 21 days in a row it becomes a habit and you'll keep going. you can't expect things to change overnight, it takes work and a helluva lot of it.