I met this girl a year ago through a friend. She lives in Chicago and I live in LA. I've had sex with her on 3 different occasions on separate trips while I was in town.

I just got to Chicago and we hooked up again. We texted back and forth and in a week I asked her out but she never responded. Instead, she sent a bs text about me watching the Blackhawks game. I replied and didn't call her out. A couple days went buy and I texted her and connected about an inside joke. Didn't ask her out again until this passed Friday and she hasn't responded.

Should I just forget her and blowoff her next text or should I overlook it, not call her out and wait to see if she hints at going out eventually by trying to engage in texting with her again? I'm only here for a month and would like to get with her again but I also understand that by not responding to 2 texts or not offering up an alt meet up time shows lack of interest.

2 consecutive flakes is the most I'll allow. Move on.

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I agree with the two super hero above.

Attraction doesn't care about what you want. You have to follow the rules. Move along and if she comes for you and you still want it go for her. But you have to learn to walk. It'll help you're attraction building capabilities in the future.

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Everyone who posted before is right. When a girls super interested you'd be surprised at the crazy and creepy things and levels they'll go to.

She has closed her legs for the season. You can surely reopen her again, but you aren't getting in her knickers any time soon. Game other chicks.

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She hit me up yesterday and we had a short text convo. I sent some pics of us together with funny banter and I think I hit an emotional chord but she didn't offer suggestions to see me again and I didn't ask her out because she didn't respond to my last 2 texts where I asked her out. Should I wait a couple of days to reconnect build a little rapport then let her know I'd like to see her before I go back to LA if she hints that she'd like to see me cause I'm leaving?

By the way did I fuck up by not asking her out when I hit that chord? I just figured if she said she missed me or hinted at seeing me then I'd offer up a time and place. Also, I've been going out and trying to get with other chicks this whole time.

I think you should sit down, have a beer and really think about how you're being dicked around by a girl and how you're eating it right up.

Then change your life around so it doesn't happen again.

If you needed to wait for some special "hit a chord" moment in order to ask her out you probably weren't connected with her in the first place.

I think you should just listen to the advice already given and move on. With your dignity. It'll help build your self esteem for the future. Read my Act Like A Man, Think Like A Woman post in the PUA lounge section.

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She is showing a lack of interest, because you're attached to going out with her.

She KNOWS what you want - you had sex 3 times so far - but she ain't feeling it.

If she texts you next time, flip the script on her and text with her a bit, but then
you be the one who says - I gotta go.

Also, tell her about meeting a girl. Or several girls. Tell her how Chicago girls are
insane - that every girl you go out with wants to take you home - and how you don't
like that.

In essence, make yourself the object of desire, by creating what I call a TRIANGLE.

Put her in between YOU and some other women, creating a TRIO.

Show that you desirable and that you see her merely as a friend.

Instant attraction.

And at the same time, actually go out with other women, and completely allow to let
her go.

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Thanks for the bitch slap because I needed it! You're right...I am eating it up right now. Need to get my inner game tight and just not be result orientated or let a flake get to me. Enthusiastic consent is the type of women I need.

Guess what? She's seeing someone or beginning to get serious with someone and doesn't want you to know so you'll keep flirting. In my experience usually if you're a shit lay they won't go for 3 rounds.

haha "the cunning linguist" from James bond. It is a phrase that sometimes comes to my mind. Nice username!

Coming to the point, I agree with the above. You probably were a good lay. Unfortunately you had different expectations and you got hooked with the girl. Even though we do not have much details of the dynamic of this relationship I would assume the following scenario:

In her mind she might have not been serious from the beginning because of the distance and kept it casual without expectations, because you were interesting, sexy enough to get intimate with. Sometimes we get feelings, get attached with someone that doesn't feel the same way. Same this happens the other way around, when a girl you are having fun with develops feelings for you.

Since you were both far away, it could be likely that she was already seeing someone else and just when you moved there for a month she flaked. She sent you a text after some time without contact just to keep you around as a backup. This is a speculation. Let go emotionally, but don't burn the bridge completely.

Man, I 'm observing lately more and more how it sounds so easy to offer an advice to another person from a completely emotionless and neutral point of view and how difficult it is at the same time to evaluate a situation going on for yourself and do what is right. That is why even coaches need coaches themselves and why there is a community here.