Question about any one that you know that did pickup and got married.

Did they ever say something was different/special about the girl that the eventually married compared to other girls?

Just Curious

Alright well I have just a month or so to go before I'm married but since the tuxes are rented, the venue is payed for and stuff, and I'm living with her I'd say it should count.

Anyways yes there was definitely something different and special about my fiance' than previous women I have been around. This coming from someone who has slept around a lot, and went through years of messing around with women.

First change was in myself. I was tired and unsatisfied with just picking up and sleeping with women or juggling a few girls from time to time. Granted it kept me busy and some of my needs were being met but not the one for a relationship. Ultimately I got into all this so I could find "the one" but until then I'd have fun. I realized I had put all my effort into just having fun and nothing much into really figuring out what kind of woman I wanted for long term and attracting her. Like most things I wrote down what I wanted.

Second change was coming to grips with what I wanted in a relationship. I don't mean all that HB rating scale but seriously what qualities were important to me. After being around a lot of women and married once before I think my list of what I didn't want was longer than what I did want. I definitely knew what I was attracted to and what qualities I wanted. I won't get into it since it differs for everyone.

Third change was also coming to grips with the fact I wasn't 22 something anymore. I had hit 29 and I realized a lot of the good women out there may have kids and quite possibly had been married already. You really have to look at someone twice at someone who is 30 and hasn't been in a serious committed relationship yet as there is usually something that is going on there. This goes for men as well as women.

After setting my general expectations and coming to a few realizations about where to find them. Most of the types of women I wanted to married wouldn't be out at the local bars unless they had a friend getting married or out celebrating someone's birthday. I did A LOT of online game so I was very comfortable with the idea that I could meet and attract someone from online. I started to be able to cold read women based on their profiles and was pretty good at it. In addition to that I was going to concentrate on attracting people I randomly met during the day as well but online was definitely going to pay off better for me.

Anyways, after some dating and some really hard screening and some months I found her. She was 6 months out of a divorce, had two great kids, taught school, my type physically, supported by hobbies, and was in my area but a little bit of a drive. Luckily, her mother and sister lived closed to where I did at the time so she was frequently in the area visiting her family.

We had our first date on St. Patrick's day 2012 after a lot of talking on the phone and me grilling her. Being fresh out of a divorce she was very skeptical and was in a "man hating" mode, she called it "being reserved." Her being skeptical and reserved was one of the main things that started really hooking me in. I'd seen so many women be seduced by me and other men without them hardly thinking about it. While she was very attracted to me, she was also serious about protecting her kids, and her heart too. Her ability to separate her emotions from logic turned me on as well. Anyways, I knew pretty quick I loved her.

Took me a while to pop the question because I had some trust issues I had to work through first. After going out and pulling single night lays from single women and women who lie about being single for years I had a hard time trusting women, also my previous marriage ended in her cheating, so I had to wait until I built more trust first.

Sorry for the long reply.

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no! the ideal situation is that you have tons of experience with women (50 plus lays or so) and that you are dating multiple women, from those multiple women you start getting a feel for the one you want most, once you have dated her for a while and SHE WINS YOU OVER, then you can think about marriage, however now a days there is not really any good reason to get married, involving gov. and church into your life... There is very little incentive to get married...

http://cnsnews.com/news/article/barbara ... ot-married

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Have had two wingmen go down the path of marriage. Both had previous relationships that ended badly, one in divorce, the other was engaged and she left. Both had problems with a multitude of relationships before entering the game. Now both have excellent fiances, good personality and looks.

Marriage doesn't make sense to me. You may be in love someone now, but people change. Not saying that it has to be probable, just that it is possible, whether people like to admit it or not.

If you wanna become world champion you have to better than the current #1. But once you're there, you have to be better than everyone else.
Same applies to love in my opinion. It's something you earn and then keep on earning. Pledging the rest of your life to someone is just a bad bet.

You can live and die happily together based on the quality of your relationship alone. No need to have a "I'm taking half your shit" failsafe.

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There comes a point, where you're basically going to have to decide whether you want to settle down and raise a family, or deal with being an old man who's still single. I'm nearly 30, and have no intention of getting married in the next decade. I can date girls in their 20s for at least another 15 years. And I intend to.

However, when I'm in my 40s, it's going to be a good idea to go ahead and get married. Why? Well, for one thing, you start to age rapidly around 50. You can stave off age for a long time, by taking good care of yourself. When you're 45, you can look 10 years younger. Around 50, you start aging faster than the number of years that pass. I'd say 2x as fast, at least. I know guys who are 40+ with 20somethings. I know not one guy in his mid-50s consistently with women below 35(bear in mind, I do not have a lot of rich acquaintances). And most women who are 35+ and single are fucked up. I do not like the look of the singles market if I'm old.

I've already dated 5 girls I think I could have married and been quite happy with, in another time or not realizing what other potential options I have. I just love playing the field too much. And I'll meet other girls, just as cool as them in the future. They do only come around every few years, but that's certainly frequent enough to wife one up when the time is right.

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