So this weekend she wants to sleep over at her girlfriends house because it’s her birthday, she knows she’s going to be drinking and since it’s pretty far from where we live she doesn’t want to have to be driving home 4-5 in the morning.

I'll be working allday Saturday, so it's not like I can bring her before I get home late.

Now the trust is pretty strong, she’s been my GF for about a year and a half and we just moved in together officially last week (Although she basically has been living with me since December). If anyone has been untrustworthy it’s been me…I’ve done some dirt and been caught in some lies, but the fact remains, I don’t know what kind of mofos will be at this party (Although she said it’s just her clique of friends nothing more), and if they’re anything like I used to be back in the day, finding someones drunk GF and trying to bang them is always a good option for a dude on the prowl.

I basically told her not sure I’m comfortable with it and we’ll talk later when I get off work…

Any advice on handling this without being a needy douche about it?

Honestly, if you trust her then let her go. Like everyone here says if shes gonna cheat theres nothing you can do.

I dont think she will IMO.

Trust her or lose her.

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Always the same problem with cheating...


She might cheat , or she might not. Only thing you can be 100% certain is that if you try to impose on her , with stuff like "I don't want you to go" , the result will be one of the following:

1. She won't go , which is bad. (Why bad ? How can it not be bad ? She's sacrificing her 'me time' because of your petty insecurities.In the long run this will hunt you. Ruthlessly.)

2. She'll go pissed off at you , which is just about as bad as it gets. (Repeat this feat enough times and I guarantee that if she doesn't cheat on you , she WILL at least be looking for a more 'worthy' and non-pussy bf)

In any case ,it's a loss-loss.

So how to turn it into a win-win ? be supportive. Encourage her to go and be excited for her. Stop thinking about what kind of mofos are there and all that shit. Again , if she's gonna cheat she's gonna cheat. So how is this a win-win ?

If she cheats , it won't be because of your pussy behavior. So you'll have your dignity and you'll know what she's capable of without being pushed away by you. Forgive her or don't,your choice. Either way,you have your dignity. Not exactly the type of win you'd prefer,but still a win.

If she doesn't , she proves she's trustworthy. Win again while coming off as a strong , confident cool guy.

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if she has the intentions to cheat, she probably would have already cheated on you in your house when you are at work. If you trust her, let her go to the party and enjoy her time with her friends. If you don't trust her, you need to reconsider actually being with her in the first place.

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1.Let her go, but call her on phone randomly to see what is she doing. She will ask you why you do not trust me? You tell her, its not that I dont trust you but I dot trust men up there if you were drunk that thay will try to use you... So, you should sound like you affraid for her.

2. tell you male friend or female to go with her or separate and let they see what is she doing and then..you get the picture

3. bug her, buy small microphone and see what is she talking...

Reality of situation is that she will get laid at party...but the think is will you know it...

4. If you want to test her, send one of you best friends and let he test her would she sleep with him..
This is perfect moment if you want to break up with her...

For real man? Buy a small microphone and stalk her??

To OP, don't do any of the above.. This is something an insecure bf would actually do.. And it's very unattractive to the girl.

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Always let girls go out and have freedom, they will love you for it. If you find out she cheated, walk away and find someone worth your time.

For the most part I always let her go out...Never really question her, but she stayed out til morning last week and thought I'd be pissed at her, but I wasn't, I was just a little worried...The fact she thought I should (REALLY thought I should) made me think,"Well maybe I should be pissed at your ass..."

So when she told me today, my first thought was some random dude taking advantage of my tight booty pants wearing drunk GF and trying to bang, because honestly I've done that before...

But this advice has reinforced me, and I won't show any negative feeling towards it, this has calmed me a bit, and I do trust her considering she's still with me despite the big lies I got caught up in (Chinese girl from 1,000 miles away, big rack, that kind of trouble)...

thank yall for the advice...

you sound like a pretty awesome person and your gf is lucky to have you.