So I was experimenting with some new idea and put up a really cocky and straight to the point profile. I sent the following message to a HB 10:
There was some IOIs there because she kept coming back with her replies and throwing me shit test to calibrate me. I tried my best to handle them. I just couldn't resit the urge to put her to her place at the end. After that reply, she shut up and I didn't hear anything from her since yesterday.

Would you guys have done it differently?

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Well you clearly blew any chance with her with that last speech.

You expressed your intentions and sexual interest way too early. Strangely enough it didnt seem to make her too uncomfortable but it did raise a HUGE bitch shield.Those weren't shit test. Just an immense BS.
You also didn't neg.
You blew off trust right at the start and implicitly rapport.



Cocky can give great results but only in combination with fun. So cocky funny works because it implies vagueness. You're cocky but you don't come across as a huge asshole or arrogant prick because you're also fun , so they can't take anything personal.


The whole idea of building rapport and what it does in fact is it disarms the BS (in a subtle way). The LMR is simply a remnant of what used to be a fully functional BS that you successfully disabled.

For all you know she could actually have been a very open minded person. But she responded negatively to your over-agressive profile.

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You're right. It was a rookie mistake for that last speech, it does sound like I'm too arrogant yet qualifying myself to her now that I look at it from your point of view. I should have kept it short and more playful.

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I think some of her comments were actually disrespectful, e.g:

"one day you will grow up haha" (interesting that she accuses you of being disrespectful in that same paragraph)

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"still have some self respect."

I think you probably needed to come back with a very strong frame to establish that this disrespect wasn't okay, but what you actually said (apart from being too long) was (a) too abstract and philosophical and (b) judgmental in a way that undermined your case.

It's cool that you opened with a sexual frame though. Like someone else said though, you just took it too far too soon. Personally I would have picked up on the comment about "Good friend named Melanie but she owns a salon so I doubt you know her". What did she mean by that? Whether seriously or jokingly, I think you should have called her on it. Any little cheeky thing like that I reckon you need to call them on. Give em an inch and they'll take a mile.

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this isnt awful. personally i would never say shit like that to a girl but i do respect how youre really testing the limits on what you can/cant say to a girl. i mean youll never know where the boundaries are if you dont do things like this occasionally. so this could certainly end up being a positive learning experience.

i think this is where you messed up. when she said this: you should have switched it up. this is a great spot to turn humble and back down a little. maybe if you had been a little more playful and switched topics it might have gone better? something like:

"lol i'm just messing with you weirdo. besides everyone knows that a burger king bathroom stall is much better than a confessional anyway. thats my real favorite spot. so tell me your favorite flavor of ice cream and ill tell you if we're compatible or not."