It's just hard finding that mindset right away
Yea, it is. That's such a good thing, no?
Allow me to explain...
Most guys don't even know to do anything other than chase because they've been raised and conditioned to believe this shit from extreme rom-com conditioning or lack of a father figure or whatever else...
Then you've got the 25% that know that shit doesn't work, they know moving on is the way to go but they get confused and think it's about "playing hard to get" in an attempt to trick their ex back; this is needy, reaction seeking, manipulative, Mystery Method, futile, time wasting behaviour that never leads to anything other than pain... eventually - they know this, but they also know that it's hard to find the right mindset, and after being dumped they feel too weak to even try anything hard, so they just cave.
are not THEM
... you're in the <5% that have had enough of the bullshit, and you've realised that you're worth AT LEAST what you want. Well, I hope so... you seem better than them, because you're here and you're not asking for permission to reach out to her for hundreds of bullshit reasons.
6 months from now you'll get a notification that somebody else commented on this thread, and you'll either think "ha! Look how far I've come! I'll tell that guy to do the same thing, cause I'm SO over that shit - crazy how what was once a huge problem is now nothing to me!" ...OR you'll think "meh, this shit doesn't work. I'll tell them, to save their time" ...it all depends on how much action you take based on what you've read.
Man, I don't know why I feel so generous today.