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PostPosted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 4:23 am 
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Yep. Hasn't texted back. Why do women play games it's so dumb. If you don't want to go out just don't respond and especially don't respond by asking when I'm free ffs. Lesson learned is to strike while the iron is hot as JackZero put it.


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 5:27 am 
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She probably fell asleep at the mention of a coffee date. Wait a week before contacting her, and this time make it for drinks.

She may hit you up within the week.

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 24, 2017 9:24 pm 
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Drinks during the evening/night at a bar nearby your place so you can bounce rapidly to your place for more drinks, a movie or anything.

Also some words of advice for the future:

1) Be patient

Don't be needy and text her twice, ask her why she isn't replying, why is she taking so long etc.

Have multiple options so you don't get hung up on one girl.

2) When given a window of opportunity, escalate fast

A man with a lot of experience in seduction can escalate fast nearly anywhere.

You are not that man yet, so for the moment try to limit yourself to dates where it takes less skill to escalate.

That being said I usually sort venues by the difficulty I encountered when wooing women in the said places:

a) Easy
Drinks at a discreet, low key bar in the evening.

b) Medium - could become Easy if you have actual skill with the said activities
Bowling. Shooting. Squash. Anything physical, competitive and most importantly FUN.
Dancing (clubs)

c) Hard
Coffee dates. Lunches. Dinners.
Any day date, especially when facing time constraints.


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PostPosted: Wed Jan 25, 2017 5:52 pm 
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Well keep in mind guys that this is some girl I met four months ago at a party and the only interaction we've had before I messaged her recently was her liking my posts on facebook. I'm not sure she would be comfortable doing anything more than coffee or lunch with me (definitely not going out for beers) cause in her mind, who the fuck is this guy?

Asking for the same date again is probably dumb so I'll hit her up in a few days and invite her to play billiards. Do I need some non-boring line to get her interested or should I just be straightforward and to the point and say "Hey let's go play billiards this week. When are you free?" with the intention of NEVER messaging her again unless she messages me if it goes similarly to this attempted coffee date.


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PostPosted: Wed Jan 25, 2017 6:15 pm 
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Jesus Christ stop being so pussified.

"Oh I'm worried about what she'll think my intentions are if I ask her for a drink! That's what bad ass guys do NOT me!"

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PostPosted: Wed Jan 25, 2017 8:05 pm 
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Yep. Hasn't texted back. Why do women play games it's so dumb. If you don't want to go out just don't respond and especially don't respond by asking when I'm free ffs. Lesson learned is to strike while the iron is hot as JackZero put it.
YOU texted the chick time of your life and then YOU texted her coffee. Why are YOU playing games? Chick is giving you a chance and you keep trying to be mr polite.


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That last one wasn't necessary. Don't bother yourself why some girl didn't answer. Move on. If 20 girls don't answer on a same trick, change the trick.

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Asked her out again yesterday. She literally just responded with "ahahaha um...maybe we can get coffee but let's not call it a date." I'm actually pretty busy this week so should I just be like "yeah this week actually got pretty busy. I'll call you this weekend. What's your number?"


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Is her lack of interest not obvious enough?

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You don't want to do this.

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See the girl in my avatar? No coffee was involved till the next morning.

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 30, 2017 5:36 pm 
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Well I typoed her response. It was actually "we can get coffee but maybe let's not call it a date" which I think makes a difference. I get it. Everyone here says don't spend too much effort on one girl. But giving up when there's still a chance however small goes against my personal beliefs. So what do I text her back?


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Well I typoed her response. It was actually "we can get coffee but maybe let's not call it a date" which I think makes a difference. I get it. Everyone here says don't spend too much effort on one girl. But giving up when there's still a chance however small goes against my personal beliefs. So what do I text her back?
It took effort for her to say "maybe let's not call it a date" when she simply could have just agreed to meeting.

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Well I typoed her response. It was actually "we can get coffee but maybe let's not call it a date" which I think makes a difference.
It does not.
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I get it. Everyone here says don't spend too much effort on one girl. But giving up when there's still a chance however small goes against my personal beliefs. So what do I text her back?
Firstly, there isn't still a chance.
Second, women tend to avoid direct rejection, if they can help it. This is her playing nice. Stop the wishful thinking.

This is a place where you get the best advice towards becoming a better and attractive man, regardless of whether it is or isn't what you want to hear.
A guy with options respects his time, he doesn't invest it in obvious dead ends. Because he has options.

This is not you standing up for your beliefs, this is you acting out of starvation.

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Why pretend to be a guy with options when you aren't one though? I get that you guys are trying to push guys like me to become guys with options but it's so hard. I'm even on day 16 of the no fap challenge and I told myself I'm going to talk to any hot girl on campus on my way to class/gym/whatever but I pussied out like a little bitch on so many occasions. Not fapping just cure approach anxiety apparently. My friends are kinda lame and study all the time and don't go out so I barely get a chance to meet girls. I have to go out to shit like school clubs and events by myself.


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