Ok, so I have been busy with more work lately and I haven't been able to meet with the fuck buddies for about two weeks.

I noticed that they will still send me texts like good morning or goodnight, how are you? etc. but one fuck buddy in particular randomly messaged me "I am so busy."

At first, it was a little strange because usually that is a typical response from someone if you ask them to meet up with you first, but I never asked her to meet with me at all. So either it was her just trying to start a conversation with me (oh hey, I know you are busy, I am busy too, blah blah) or she was shit testing me?

Have you guys on here had women say/text something like this wanting you to take control of the situation? I realize that often when a woman says she is busy, she is actually busy but I don't think that is always the case.

Maybe when she told me that she is busy, she wanted me to make plans with her on the spot. For example, blow off what she told me and just tell her where and when to meet me because I said so, etc.

One of my other more submissive fuck buddies about a month back told me on the phone that she just wants to meet up "to talk" but I straight up told her no on the phone then told her with friendly confidence where and when to meet me and that we were going to have sex and we can just talk after or whatever and she agreed.

Later that night after we spent some time together at the hotel, she told me that she was really impressed by how confident I am and how she likes when I tell her my plans. I bring this up because it could basically be the same type situation as with the other woman.

I just wanted to see of any other guys on here have ever done this or do you just ignore any woman that says she is busy, just wants to talk, etc and move onto the next woman? I used to just move on until I realized these might sometimes be a type of "are you going to man up and lead" type shit test situations.

I'm gone lose my shit because of this one day. Check my sig and read the thread.

She was just making conversation dude.

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Well, I mentioned in my post that chances are she was just making conversation, so I'm not ruling that out.

So you believe when a woman messages things like: I'm busy

It either means:
1) They are busy.
2) They are rejecting a guy.
3) They are busy but starting a conversation.

But they never ever use phrases like this to shit test guys no matter what the situation is?

You haven't read the thread have you?

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She has a strong ego (insecure) but is still desperate to "see" you...

You continue as if you understand she's busy and try to find a way for you two to see each other. Not in a needy way, It's you who is doing her a favor...

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Søren Aabye Kierkegaard

Yes, I assumed it was something like this. I will give her a call next week and when we meet, it will be on my terms.

I read through your post and the responses and I even left a reasonable reply.

I think it would be much better to wait for her to contact you again, especially if it happens often. Otherwise you will have to think up something quite good to start the interaction, or you might get strong resistance from her...

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Søren Aabye Kierkegaard

Yes, she still texts me daily, so I will call her up when I have time and give her the plan.