So I met this girl recently, got her number and hung out with her. She's cute, obviously knows I'm interested... And now I'm trying to suss out what she is trying to get out of me. She is initiating conversations with me, sometimes she'll send 3 texts in a row without me having chance to respond. And about some pretty personal things too. This week she has wanted to buy a bike saddle because she "can't pee" and told me that if her problem continues she's scared she won't be able to have orgasms. Which I loved hearing about at first, but here's thing. Now that I've been trying to arrange to see her again she's being flaky with me and not really committing to anything. I've never known a girl to message me this much without wanting to get on top of me, Is this weird? Am I being teased? Should I stop pursuing her?

I was expecting something totally different. Not sure where you see "tease" in all this.
I know most guys do victory dances whenever that occurs and see it as a win, but in reality, it just isn't. Having her spew personal shit to you isn't a sign of her wanting to fuck you, it's a sign of her opening up to you.

You know what a person you start opening up to is called? It's called a friend.
You know what a person you've shared intimacy with and opened up to is called? It's called a lover.

Some women just love the attention. And the most effective way of seeing whether she's interested in more than just having her ego stroked over text is asking her out.

Now you gave very few details for a more accurate answer, as in how long have you known each other, how long have you been talking, how you met, did you ever meet face to face, etc. But generally speaking, if she's flaking she's not interested.

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nice reply

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Uh, I hate to break it to you.
But many women are big texters. And yes, they'll flirt, they'll tell you personal information, they'll tease, they'll mislead you. She's not necessarily screaming, "I want to bone you," but it's these subtle ways that men misinterpret.

I say this because I'm a woman and I've done this in my younger years. For attention. Out of boredom. Etc.

So, my best advice to you is this: If you keep doing this penpal thing with her and it doesn't lead you to anywhere, don't stick around unless you just want to be friends and nothing more. This is the problem lots of guys have. Even when the girl tells them straight up she wants only friendship, guys still have hope. Don't.

Just because she's made a sex joke doesn't mean she wants to have sex with you. Only proof would be actual intimacy.

LMAO...you are hurting the feelings of half of the guys that join the forum. Now get ready to answer how they can turn it around because they still have hope.

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They can, and they can't. Some women just aren't that into you no matter what you do.

I suppose what I mean by tease is, is she using me to satisfy her own ego... Yeah I totally agree with what you're saying, I don't see her telling me all of this information as a sign of "it's on". I'll give you a little more detail though. I've known her for about three or four weeks, I met her face whilst I was working, we got talking had a laugh and I asked if she wanted to hang out and she gave me her number. About a week or two later we arranged to meet up, we went hiking and hung out. She messaged me the next day telling me what a great time she had and that she would like to do it again. So up until then all good, we were on to meet again but she flaked because she was tired, maybe true maybe not. But it's been since then that she has been sending me all this information.
I asked her if she wanted to hang out last night which she said maybe to because she was supposed be seeing a mate, she later replied telling me that was still on but we could hang out if she was free over the next two days, and sent me a long message about her day at the doctor. I told her I would let her figure it out, again she replied twice with more of her information...
Some of that happened after I had started this thread

Well, at least she's offering a reschedule.

What happened on that hike though?

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I did actually meet up with her this afternoon. Fair play, sounds like she's been kind of ill. Oh we just hung out and talked away when we went hiking, the same kind of thing happened today too. I seem to be overthinking this situation way too much, I felt like I was struggling to escalate with her again and I still haven't kissed her.

way to go

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Sounds to me like you haven't even tried to kiss her.

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Typical case of:

Not prepared to make the move

Playing not to lose, instead of playing to win. You probably have one chance left to man up

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Maybe she's into you but not THAT into you. There are plenty of women that jump a man's bones, and plenty that don't.

Agreed,

So he should still try nevertheless, otherwise he will never know!

Derp Derp

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