N2, the OP started with a story of a cheap guy. Which I agreed with and defended in multiple posts. She then took it to a guy needs to pay to play and men need to spend money to get a high quality woman. This I disagreed with to which I was called a woman hater. Read the rest of her replies, and get ready to join the "you mus hate women" club.
OP calm yourself down. YOU told a story where YOU didnt say what you did. Even when asked you dodged. You keep lying that anyone here is complaining about a $10 drink.
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The general ethos is that if you're going to invite a girl for drinks, you should at least expect to pay.
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I will never understand the camp against spending money on a date.
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Don't be cheap. Don't be stingy about a $5 drink.
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I always offer to pay, and I don't mind if I'm paying for everything on the first date or so,
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She's not getting dressed up and spending an hour putting on makeup to nab a free martini. Heck, the amount she pays to park her car probably costs more at the end of the drink. This "buying shit" just sounds like the money is this big deal, which I dont get.
I could keep quoting but you get the idea....Why are you arguing with fictional guys complaining about drinks in your head? I mean, are you READING replies here, or is there some other forum you're responding to their replies here?
I asked you what did you bring to the table, and instead of being straight up and honest, you decided to go crazy on here and make up shit in your head.
should have gone like this:
Neo: "what did you bring to the table to show you were worth it"
You: "I did XYZ."
Neo: "Ok sounds like you DO actually bring stuff"
Instead it went like this:
Neo: "what did you bring?"
You: "Woman hater!!"
Neo: "Oh since you cant say I assume you brought nothing
You: More craziness
Neo: you should bring something to the table
You: I brought wine and payed
Now after all that run around, you've acted crazy and flip flopped on what you were saying.
For the record, no one is complaining about a $10 drink
No one told you you shouldnt have a preference
No one said this guy made the right moves
None of that is in this thread. Yet you keep repeating that like a lunatic. I said, dont be cheap and pay for a drink. Do a nice thing with NO EXPECTATIONS. You turned it into "pay to play" and a man has to impress you and work for you. Fine. Thats your choice. I believe that you should meet someone and they need to bring more than their looks and resume. Money spent doesnt matter. You think differently. And thats your choice. But dont act like all men who focus on getting to know a woman instead of working for her are woman haters. Calm down, stop acting crazy and arguing with yourself. You are really making women look erratic and entitled.