So I met this girl at the beach here in Cali, and I didn't find her attractive but did it for practice. This is from Tinder. I meet her, we talk a bit at the bench then we walk towards the beach and I lay down a towel and we sit. I instantly get her favor, she starts laughing and I'm in state like non-stop, I'm making her laugh a lot, her cheeks were red, I also got her used to my touch by doing palm reading jokes, casual touches here and there.

I built a lot of connection as well by not asking surface level stuff and really learning about her. I learned a lot and didn't repeat some mistakes. So I felt it was time to kiss her. We sat at the beach for about 1 hour and 30 minutes, maybe? At this point, I said it looks like you want to kiss me. She laughed at hesitated. And pulled away I went in for it and she resisted me. So I backed off. At this point it really messed up with my game. I asked, "Is it cause people are here?" She said "I'm more conservative and people are here... I just like meeting new people." This is before she admitted to having sex on a plane with her ex...

I thought after two dates in a row (different girls) she likes me but won't kiss me? This really upset me. What is it about me that made both girls not want to kiss me. It makes me feel not good enough. REALLY. Especially when things were solid at first. Like I'm not attractive enough? I don't want to believe that.

(I have a part of my hair dyed, it's bleached, kind of blond, it's a streak. My hair is mainly black. It looks like Sweeny Todd. And my voice can be horse or not as masculine?) I was dressed well, very clean and hygienic too.

I started asking almost the same questions, I was thrown off. I stopped being funny and teasing her and I just became needy trying to figure out what to do to lay her. And she sensed it and had her guard up. Then I even picked her up and put her on my lap and we talked for a bit and my energy just wasn't the same.

Basically, I said let's get up and move a bit around the beach. She said actually I have to go, I told her the park is like 5 feet away, we walk for 10 minutes and I invite her to meet up again and she just says, how busy she is and she doesn't know her schedule. I kept saying well when are you free - what day works for you - and she's like no rush... I just like meeting new people, and she kindly put it off. After this basically she became very distant.

This really affected my inner game because one moment she's laughing and we're connecting - the next moment she's distant and almost acted like I was a threat or would jump on her to kiss her.

- So what do you do when she rejects your advances
- Why is my game failing after it seems I ran things solid.
- This is affecting my inner game and making me feel like I'm inherently not good enough and not even an unattractive girl won't kiss me. I don't feel attractive.
- I believe it may be because I didn't location bounce and we stood on one place. But I also feel it's cause I'm not attractive enough. (Yet in my opinion I'm handsome)?

Take two steps forward, one step back. Why do you take it personally?

Dont jump conclusions after just 2 girls... go on 10 dates and see how many will kiss you. Pushing for a kiss is not reccomended either, they have to feel like it. So after making her laugh stare her in the eyes and hold it like 3-5 seconds then you might see that smile go into that shy/whats going to happen look, thats the time to strike.

Also i would build good comfort for at least an hour, after an hour you can tell you guys are hitting it off, if its mainly you trying to make it fun than please don't try for a kiss.

My 2 cents.

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It's your THINKING that's CAUSING you to believe this.

In short, you perceive a kiss as an indication that she's interested, and no matter if the date goes well by all other accounts it's negated (in your mind) if you don't get the kiss/validation you were looking for.

This ^.

You're being outcome dependent. Which leaves you easily shaken. Women don't really have a thing for fragile men.

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It's the venue. Next time when you isolate for the k-close, choose a place where not too many people are looking or around. There might be people in the beach whom she knows and that broke the spell of the romantic moment. To calibrate if you have chosen the right place for the k-close, hold her hand like both of you are bf-gf and then kiss her hand. When you get a smile or no resistance from kissing her hand, then that's the best time for the kiss close.

Personally, the cock rub works more efficiently for me than the k-close when it comes to finalizing the fuck close. The kiss her hand before the k-close though increases your odds for the k-close if the kiss is all you're aiming for instead of the casual fuck. Remember: The cock rub positions you as a short term casual beefcake while the kiss close positions you as a long term romantic partner. Specialize in your target demographics that will fit in with your personal brand.

Besides, when you have successfully managed to get a girl to rub your cock, the k-close in the privacy of the bedroom would naturally follow.

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