i've been dating a girl for about a year now, we maybe see each other like three to four times a month. We haven't had any chat about being boyfriend/girlfriend. we chat a lot on text and speak on the phone a lot.

Long story short we do get on really well, she has a great personality, only problem is I'm just not physically attracted to her, i've tried to overcome this but just can't. she's in shape but just isn't really what I go for, she has recently been talking about us in the future and its freaking me out.

I don't know what to do, i'm not getting any younger and i've not dated many girls long term. I'm really confused has anyone else been in the same situation. are physcial looks really important?

I like to go on how I click with a girl and the chemistry which is why I gave this girl a chance.

What does your dick say?

Be selfish.

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I mean you've been with her for a year already... I'm assuming that she looks at least decent right? Even though you guys have clicked well, there is no sexual attraction since you find her a turn off. Eventually one day you'll probably get tired of her and find someone else with a great personality and a great body. It's best if you moved on to a different girl if you're already questioning about her after a year.

She looks decent, actually has a great body but isn't really my type looks wise, but she pursued me quite hard at the start.

My dick says no if I'm honest. I just don't want to be shallow.

So you're at the point of taking whatever you can get? This may be the wrong forum for you.

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No, sexual attraction is not important.

Nevermind desiring your girl. Nevermind your girl being desired by you. No woman wants to feel desired, that's just shallow.

Because we all know girls can't have great personalities and be sexy at the same time. You always have to chose one, right?

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Unfortunately you stayed in it for too long. I had been there in my first relationship when I didn't know any better. She was older than me, gentle, innocent, loved me to pieces, couldn't think of any other guy other than me, we were getting along very well. I wasn't that much physically attracted to her and I felt that intellectually we were not matching. After almost 2 years in a relationship I had to leave the country. I was making a new beginning and in all honesty I didn't really care and it didn't affect me (part of it had to do with the sexual attraction), while it crushed her and she was devastated. That was over 6 years ago and I still feel bad about this from time to time. I stayed too long in that relationship.

Call me shallow but first and foremost sexual attraction is on top of the priorities. When you meet girls out you know if you are sexually attracted to them enough or not straight away. Then you proceed. Sometimes they might pass the "first sexual attraction barrier" but after a few times of having sex you find yourself to not really enjoy it. That is where you stop.

My minimum criterion would be if after a week of no sexual interactions you should desire to fuck the brains out of your partner. If you are ever in a relationship with someone who you want to shag every single night and you are getting along well, marry her if that is what you want.

Are you sleeping with this girl?

I know you've made a post about a few different women who you were dating and not sleeping with many times before?

And to answer your question: Important for what? A future? how do you suppose you start a family with a girl your dick doesn't even get hard for?

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well first and foremost I definitely don't just go for whatever I can take, this girl is definitely a high quality girl she's very intelligent, earning good money, takes care of her body, works out regularly. we really do match on a personality level, which Is why I gave her a chance. i'm not talking about any of the other girls I have mentioned before. I definitely don't feel the I want to fuck her brains out.

I have a health condition so it's not been easy to meet girls.

We haven't slept with each other, but she still seems to want to hang on. her interested level is very high, never met a girl who has liked me as much.

i've seen plenty of good looking girls with ugly guys, obviously they can't be physically attracted to them so there has to be more.

I just wondered are looks at the top of the list for people on here?

No.

I wrote an article called " Dear Femininity, Men Want You Back" go look it up for further on this topic. Although the scale is starting to tilt nowadays, but the majority still have a sufficient level of there nature in tact.

I will go on to say though that this has to be a girl you've posted about before. What happen to there girl you did 10+ dates with and didn't sleep with? That wasn't even a year ago. Are you saying that this is a girl you've been seeing for a whole year that you haven't mentioned on the forum before, all while making multiple post about other women you haven't slept with either all this year? And then at the same time saying its difficult for you to meet women?

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For the last time this post is not about the girl with 10 + dates which I never slept with, she stop seeing me in April last year so that is over a year. I met this girl in May after her.

This is the same girl I said I slept with, and I've only slept with her. Trust me I don't get many girls which is the problem.

It's good to hear that looks are not priority for everyone. Refreshing anyway because everyone just seems to talk about it.

Looks ARE a priority.
Personality is also a priority.

The whole package is a priority.

You don't settle for a dumb moron just because she's hot.
You don't settle for a less than attractive woman just because she has a sparkly personality.

You "settle" for the girl find highly attractive AND has a great personality.

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Yeah ok you do make a fair point, then how do you explain hot girls with ugly guys there obviously going more for the personality and overall package and not looks.

Wtf.... You've been dating an ugly chick for a year and still haven't slept with her?

What the fuck man
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So this is about another girl who youve dated for a year and not slept with. Do you think that's better?

I'd say settle man. Unless you're willing to put in the work and change the entire way you date. Because you're doing shit incredibly wrong if you're not fucking a girl after a year. This truly is the saddest thing I've read here for a while. 10 dates with one woman and no sex. Now a year with some woman and no sex. Is it a medical penis problem?