She's contacting you for one of two reasons:

1. She wants to test if she could still have you at the drop of a hat - you're her safety net. At this point all you can do is wait for her to reach out, tell her "It's great to hear from you. I'm busy at the moment but when are you next free? Come over and we'll make dinner" or something.

2. She's slowly coming towards you but you're getting aggressive and scaring her away with neediness. Send the exact same message that I just said.

In either situation, if she agrees then set a date and don't contact her again until you're on the date - if you plan it properly, then you won't need to get in touch with her again and just risk her cancelling the date on you. If she doesn't agree, just say "Okay, well give me a call if you change your mind because I would love to see you" and don't get in touch with her again unless she reaches out, at which point you say the exact same thing again.

Most guys pussy out with this, but I've got a good feeling about you.

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I still haven't contacted her since we last spoke and that was a couple of weeks ago. I'm not sure what to do.

The problem is I don't have my own place so asking her for dinner and drinks at my place is out the question. I've asked her out before and she made excuses so don't want to come across needy.

I'm still dating other girls just now, but none of them really compare to this girl. trust me I wish they did would make life a lot easier.

should I contact her or just leave it? this sucks! if she hadn't contacted I probably wouldn't have thought about this as much.

Nothing. This is the illusion of action. Being men, we get this feeling of a need to take action and do something - masculinity is about going after what you want, so it's normal. However, the only time this should be completely ignored, is with women. You do nothing at all. If she's not reaching out then it means you currently don't have a chance. Read the article in my signature and apply everything in there.
I don't have my own place either, that doesn't limit you as much as you think lol. You could always invite her somewhere local that you happen to be going to (don't purposely invent a little plan though). You've already asked her out, and hopefully said "Ok, well give me a call when you change your mind" or something along those lines - the ball is in her court, now. If you were playing tennis and you hit a ball over the net, would you hit another one over before they hit it back? Nope, of course not. Again, you do nothing.
1. It's oneitis
2. GOOD!! Keep dating other girls
Think I already answered this question. As I mentioned in my article: As humans, we're naturally attracted to that which retreats from us. The way to invrease the illusion of value of anything is to make it scarce. This is proven by how you're putting this girl on a pedestal.

She is no better than other girls. I promise you this. She shits, sometimes it's really runny and fucking stinks and she doesn't wipe it properly. Sometimes she takes her thong off and there's a little skid mark of shit. Also, somewhere, some guy is fucking sick of her bullshit. She really isn't that great.

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Do you just use Corey wayne material? because I've watched his videos a hundred times and what you said is exactly what he did. I'm not doubting him because some of his stuff makes sense and i've also read his book.

simply there is no quick fix if a girl isn't really interested.

I've learned a lot from Corey Wayne yes. Also a lot of Jason capital and real life experiences. The illusion of action was a reference from Corey Wayne.

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Oh and the tennis reference is Corey Wayne too I think. I may be wrong. Either way try it out. If you've read Corey Wayne's book enough then you shouldn't need to ask these questions.

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Corey Wayne's theory is to walk away and never look back, tell the girl if she changes her mind to call you, and if she contacts you again to set a definite date as she is trying to get you in her orbit, what do you do if she isn't willing to meet up with you but still talks to you? I sadly only started reading his book after I got the friends chat from the girl which is too late.

I have to say I like Corey Wayne but his theory is always based on finding someone better as opposed to getting someone back. I knew the illusion of action reference straight away, I've literally watched all his videos on YouTube. I have been listening to them every morning before going to work for the last 6 months.

Read the article in my signature and apply it. Your reply makes it obvious that you ignored it because it's not a "way to get her back"

Why do you need her back so much? The need for anything, gets in the way of everything.

Ps: the best way to get her back is by applying everything in that article. I've been in your position a lot of times. The only difference is that I decided I'm worth more and acted on it. Pisses me off when guys won't do the same, because I know how good it is when you get this area of your life sorted out.

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which article? the 'material for new guys' or 'those who want there ex back'?

thanks. i've been working on myself a lot lately, focusing on my career, working out, get my finances in order, i'm dating a few girls, none which excite me though, I wish they did but they don't and there not really what I want.

The one for guys who want their ex back

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thank you, well I spoke to her a couple of days ago but it just goes nowhere. she just wanted to chat about mundane stuff asking how I was. this is driving me crazy!

I'm going to read that article.

just an update, i've been speaking to her more. I've got to the point where she iniating messaging. I'm still unsure whether to ask her out. I don't want the conversation to fizzle out though then were back to square one.

should I be direct and ask her out.

You never learn, do you?

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When I've asked her out before she made excuses, I want to make sure her interest level is high before asking her again.

She's Iniatated contact several times, I'm getting a bit bored though, doesn't seem to go anywhere! I don't like messaging on Facebook at all would rather just meet her in person.

The fact she dumped me, means she should be asking me out, would it not make me look desperate asking her out?

What should I do? Sorry I know I'm doing stuff wrong.