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I don't believe the human mind was built for the online dating scene.
The human mind can adapt to many things. If it weren't "built" for online dating, online dating wouldn't be so successful.
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Most men are wired to fear the approach and therefore exercise varying degrees of restraint. Now, with the anonymity of social and dating sites, men are fearless and express overt, and sometimes even vulgar interest in women. Worse even, men 'over-compliment' women in hopes of getting laid,
Yeah. That
only happens online.
Dude that has been and happening in real life long before online became popular. Online simply allows idiots to manifest their questionable intelligence far easier. It equally allows smart guys to do their own thing.
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making her think her value is far beyond what is realistic. So, more or less, 5's become 10's, 10's become 20's etc.
Women are women. If you have a problem with a "5" becoming a "10", that's because you think you need to treat them differently based on how attractive you perceive them. Which is one of the main reasons guys don't get laid.
And sure, some are under the impression that the Sun shines outta their own ass but who'd want to be around someone like that in the first place?
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Without a doubt you can still establish your value online, but I feel like because of what online dating does to female psychology and because a woman can't experience your presence, body language etc... online dating is a hurdle for the PUA.
You don't need to "establish" anything proactively. Online nor in real life. If you're trying to "DHV" you're already failing, simply because actually being of high value will not require you to try and demonstrate that. It all roots from the abundance mindset. If one girl can't recognize what's right in front of her, the next one will. And there's a difference between reading that sentence and understanding it.
Basically, rich people don't carry huge "I'm rich" signs around them. They don't need to.
Anyway, your presence, your body language, the way you talk or write, these are just tools that express your personality, because they're fundamentally influenced by it. A weak character will not stand up tall. He will not be a challenge. He will not be daring.
Whether it's online or in real life the principle is the same. The goal is to express your personality. Whether it's verbal or virtual, it's irrelevant.
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What are your thoughts? Do you agree, disagree or have any other angles / points to bring up on this subject?
Also, if anyone wants to take a moment to give some advice on online dating that would be interesting.
I'll share some things I've seen. Freddie Few had a good idea, once a girl gives you her number it's often a good idea to just call her instead of text as it establishes a more tangible and emotional connection. Most girls don't expect since most guys think it's too forward, but if you're a good conversationalist and have a easy going and relaxed tone, it's been very successful for me.
Also, giving off the vibe that online dating more or less just a joke to you (you don't need it, you're just being playful and having some fun). Having pictures that are a little outlandish (you with an eye patch and relaxed in a chair drinking a beer... not caring...
Anyways, these are my thoughts, I'm looking forward to seeing what everyone's thoughts are on this.
You need to experiment around and find what suits your personality best. Personally I rarely ever call. I'm busy most of the time and texting is far more practical but to be honest I also enjoy it far more. And it's always worked perfectly for me.
At the same time Eddie Fews is a testament for calling. And that's been working out for him.
There's no cookie-cutter method. This isn't an exact science, it's an artform.
The only real thing you need to understand is yourself. Who you are and how you can improve on that. I've seen far too many introverts trying to suddenly be extroverts, good guys trying to be "bad boys", and idiots who can barely afford rent dress up in all Armani. It's no wonder they fail miserably. You can only fake it for so long.
Be yourself is a little far fetched. The true term is be your best self. Work towards achieving that. But there's a reason why women spew that advice to you all day everyday. The masculine frame is stronger. She will follow your lead. She just wants you to be confident in it. Because if you're not, neither will she.
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