So, there's this girl that works at my company. She's hot, kind of a party girl and she's older than me. 1 week ago, she was having lunch with another girl that I knew, so I sat down next to them in order to meet her. After lunch I sent her an email with jokes about something that happened during lunch, and after some mail exchanges, she asked me for my facebook and we continued our conversation there.

She was replying everytime so I wanted to know if she had a boyfriend. After she said she just bought some new dress, I negged her saying "that dress is horrible, dont show that to your boyfriend or he will end up with you." She replied "Noooo..he is really nice and sweet and he is going to like this new dress". Ok, she has a boyfriend...damn.

She has a boyfriend, so I am no longer interested... its like mission impossible.

The problem is that after that she just doesn't shut up! She just keeps saying "good morning, lets lunch together, see you tomorrow kisses" everyday. She has even compared me to her sister! wtf!! ridiculous!

When we lunch together and some other people join, we have all a normal conversation about company issues. She doesn't tell anybody that she is texting me the entire day..and neither do I. Its strange.

So nowadays, what happens is this:


Her: Good morning!!!

Me(after 1 hour): Hi, good morning

Her(after 2 minutes): This guy right next to me smells bad. I can't work!

Me(after 30 minutes): Offer him perfume. Problem solved.

Her(after 2 minutes): blablabla (10 lines)

Me (after 1 hour): yeah right

Her (after 2 minutes): at what time are you going to lunch? tell me so I can join now!

Me (after 30 minutes): I am going to lunch now. John, Peter and Mary are coming with me.

Her (after 2 minutes): Ok! I am going now too!!


-- after lunch --


Her: I really liked lunch, food was great!

Me: Yeah it was not bad

Her: There's this creepy guy in my room that is always looking at me. I'm scared what should I do?

Me: Show him your boobs. You should be nice to your colleagues..

Her: blablabla...

Me: I can't work, you are always chatting. Stop writting things

Her: Noooo! I want to talk to you. You're the only person here that I can talk about these things! My sister is abroad
and I can't talk to her

Me: (dont talk to her anymore)

Her(after 2 hours): I am leaving...see you tomorrow!! Kisses!!




And next day the story repeats again and again..



I don't understand what is happening here. I guess she thinks that I am an interesting and fun person, and since her boyfriend is not paying attention to her, she "adopted" me as her little brother dont know why.

What should I do in this situation. Stop talking to her because this is a silly situation or continue talking to her?

When we are alone she talks about the things we've chatted before through facebook. When we are at a group, she speaks about general issues. Other people dont know we are chatting the entire day through facebook, it's like our little secret..dont know why.


She is hot, has lots of friends and lots of guys trying to pick up her, so why is she talking to me a lot if she is not interested in me in a romantic way?

Why are you obligating yourself to her then?

In the oft chance somehow she'll leave her boyfriend for you? How she may be able to hook you up with some friends?

Sounds like a lot of wasted energy you could be reclaiming back to yourself, and potentially putting into someone else who is available and interested in you.

Let me get this straight....she never mentioned the bf till you brought it up...and this is her friendzoning you?

Not saying she's interested, but you gave up way too soon. Again, she may not be interested, but at least make a move before calling friendzone. If you have a moral issue with her having a bf, thats fine...but you sound like its impossible now because of the BOYFRIEND SHE NEVER MENTIONED TILL YOOOOUUU BROUGHT IT UP.
This suggests a lack of confidence in yourself, hence why you sabotaged yourself. She "thinks" you're interesting...aren't you? You're a "little brother"? Think better of yourself man. Maybe she likes you. Maybe she's not interested romantically but enjoys talking to you. Doesnt mean she sees you as a child. Maybe she just sees you as a friend. Is it so crazy that a girl with a bf may be interested in you? Is it so crazy that a girl who is not romantically interested may just genuinely enjoy your company?

If you want to make a move, make a move. But dont get a girl to tell you whether she has a bf to then friendzone yourself.

I agree with Neo.

Furthermore, if you don't want to fuck a girl with a boyfriend, then why are you saying she is friendzoning you?

Why can't you friendzone her?

She sounds friendly enough. Why don't you keep her around so you can be preselected by women? Do you think it's a bad thing to have female friends you don't fuck? I keep female friends I don't fuck, and I go to the club/bar with them.

Its automatic preselection.

Quit complaining. If you don't want her, fine. She sounds cool.

Well...like I've said before: she said to me that has a boyfriend and that he is really nice and sweet. She also compared me to her sister (this comparison kills any chance I had..). It's kinda obvious to me that she is not interested and just wants to be my friend but she is really cool.

I dont have many girls as friends, and the ones I have dont text me the entire day like this one! that's what I dont understand. I only have received these amount of messages before when girls are interested and attracted to me.
She's like putting too much effort and giving lots of attention that I feel I do not deserve. From my point of view, she should be exchanging romantic messages with her boyfriend the entire day..that would make more sense.

But maybe it's my lack of experience of having girls as friends..they are not all equal. Maybe this girl shares her experiences and what is happening with her friends throughout the day, and maybe that's normal...I'm just not used to it.

Quit responding to her text if you want her to stop texting you.

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OP what in the fuck? Neo is 200% correct. Talk about shooting yourself in your own leg. She literally never mentioned a boyfriend until you fished that information out of her. I honestly don't see the logic behind that. She said he was nice and sweet? What the hell else would she say to virtually a stranger?
Like my good friend says: "When she has a bf, it's you against him. But when she's single, it's you against everyone else"
Mission impossible my ass.

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You not only friend zoned yourself... You practically GAY friend zoned yourself. Except you're not gay.

LMAO

Sorry to laugh at your expense... But that's pretty funny when it happens lol

Anyways, basically, everything you've been doing with girls, do the opposite.

I've been on your side of the fence. It's frustrating. It's really hard to admit that everything you've ever been told about what females like is all a fucking lie.

Her boyfriend is probably some tatttooed bad ass who fucks the shit out of her then ignores her. Then she texts you for comfort while he goes off and does cool shit. You're buried in your phone talking to her while he's living life. Becoming even hotter to her. And you become even more "friend zoned."