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So fellas typical girl here and I'm curious to see how your brain works lol.
If you're not interested in her and you don't think the sex was all that great bc of some issues so neither of us finished if you know what I mean. So would you still be affectionate with her afterwards (forehead kisses, cuddling, kissing)?
If I wasn't interested after sex, then no, I would not be affectionate.
So first I'll just say that I think he feels bad for not cumming, and not making you cum, so he wanted to make it up to you by showing you affection.
I wasn't there and a lot of details were left out so I'm going to make a ton of assumptions and broad statements. . .
Fact of the matter is that a significant amount of girls base their performance on whether or not they make a guy cum. You really need to throw that emotion out, it's not your fault that he didn't cum. There could be any number of reasons he didn't cum, but I can almost promise you it wasn't because of you. Maybe he jerked off a few hours before so he wouldn't cum too fast with you, but instead it just made it really hard for him to cum? Me, for example: If I cum once, I'm not going to cum again, good luck getting me to, it would take some serious work.
Some guys don't cum the first or second time with a girl because they're nervous about their performance. A lot of times the guy is so concerned with making sure you enjoy it, he can't be in the moment and let it happen. This is almost the same thing as peeing in front of a stranger. Sometimes we get bladder shy, and it's a performance anxiety issue. This happens to both sexes equally, and usually if a girl can't cum with me, I can tell its because of performance anxiety.
Again, don't base your sexual performance on his not cumming. Believe me, you not cumming is making him nervous about his performance as well.
Here's what happened with me tonight. . .
Girl comes over, we've had sex a couple of times, but she's 18, and is eager to impress me (I'm not being self centered, it's just painfully obvious). Each time we've had sex she is very difficult to make cum. While I'm trying to get her to cum, she moves a lot, she tries to grab my dick to pleasure me, she does a lot of back scratching and what not. It's obvious to me that she's having a hard time cumming because she's worried about what I think of her. And the longer I try, the more it becomes an issue, and the more she "locks up" and is more shy about cumming.
Imagine someone is watching you pee. And you can't pee. But you know it'll come on sooner or later. But they keep staring at you. The longer you wait, the more awkward it becomes. And the more awkward it becomes, the less likely you are to pee.
Same thing with this girl. So what did I do? I stopped, told her it was okay, and said "I know what you're thinking right now." She said "What am I thinking?" and I said "You're thinking, what is he thinking of me right now, not cumming?" She laughed and said "you're right!!!" It was nice to clear the awkward air. Anyway, went back at it. She was into it again, but got shy again (I could feel her almost cum be she didn't). I flipped her around and burried her face in the pillow so she couldn't see me, and went to work on her while talking dirty to her "You horny fucking teenager, what are you doing in this old man's bed? Why is your fucking pussy so wet for me? Fuck you're so hot right now, fuck!"
She came. Hard.
Anyway. All of that to answer your question. Yes, he's still interested in you. He was affectionate after, he wants to please you.
I'm sure the sex was great. Just because both of you didn't cum didn't mean it wasn't great. All that tells me is that you both are really into each other and really wanted to please each other. Break the awkward air and lighten up with each other.
And this is strange but, if you want him to cum, dirty talk like crazy, and don't look at him when you feel it might happen. Close your eyes and turn your head. It's an awkward moment sometimes when a girl is staring at you while you're getting ready to cum.
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