Dear colls,

I welcome everyone as a new member of PUA!

I decided to join as i have a hard times last few days.

The problem is that i crushed into a girl...a married girl.

She is beautiful, funny and very very soft-hearted, but our life views are pretty different.

A few days ago i made a very unfunny joke, she decided that i want to leave her, but i didn't, she cried, hanged up the phone before she wished me good luck. She didn't respond to my msgs and calls after.

Our relationship started very friendly, i never wanted to go further, as she is married (even thus her marriage is on the edge of divorce now) and she has a kid now, that is attending a primary school)

After i realized that it might go bad and i didn't want to destroy the family, i tried to farewell with her, but she came back after 2 days and everything went better since then.

I miss her now, so much, as i had a very lovely time with her, and i dont know what to do. I want her back but i dont want to be a third guy in a triangle.

We have a small age difference as i am a few years younger and she is in her late 20s.

What do you guys think? is it worth it? Anyone had the same situation?

Thanks!

She is married, has a kid, and is cheating on her husband. Does this sound like a "quality" women you want to be with? If the answer is Yes.. the keep trying to pursue her.

If it is NO then stop talking to her and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea... and ones who are younger, hotter, not married, and do not have kids lol

Just my 2 cents

Go find a single girl.

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That's what I keep in my head. I believe your 2 cents have a value of hundred bucks here, lol. Thanks man.

Often women who are unfulfilled within their relationships will find what I call a "crowbar", that is a guy who she can then cling-onto to help break the current attachment she has with her partner.

I actually have a few female friends who have done this, often-times it leads to the same end result (another unhappy coupling). At the core of this is co-dependency/attachment issues that, if not addressed, will plague the person for the rest of their days.

I think embarking upon any sort of a relationship with this person will be harmful to your own well being and sense of self.

As the other posters stated, move on and find some cute, single women your age to date.

Thank you. Your post is very intelligent. I find it very helpful for myself.

Guys thank you everyone for support and replies.

So very true, In the UK they're called "Life rafts" The criteria being that it's a nice guy beta type whom she can use to leave the sinking ship of her current relationship. Once she has her shit together they're usually dumped for another alpha guy.

Maybe, maybe not whose to say really.

People who suffer from an insecure attachment style, more often than not, settle for whatever seemingly enticing lure comes along that they feel they can attach to. Most people with this form of attachment, much like the drug addict, would sooner lose themselves in another than do any meaningful work on themselves. Not to say it never happens, but its far rarer in my estimation that a person becomes aware of the pattern and learns to deal with it so that they can have more secure attachments to themselves and as a byproduct to healthier people.

If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you.

Welcome to the community of abundance mentality. I trust you'll now take the advice to go and find a single girl, won't you?

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Find someone who isn't married or has a kid.

Don't care if she has a bf, that's fine. And even on married life I'm not here to discuss the morality of it. It's simply way too much baggage. Add a kid on top of that and it's just nope everywhere.

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Ye most probably you are more than right. Its always good to see it from the other side. Thanks guys.

A married (or unavailable) woman is awesome if a man likes, and is seeking immediate suffering and costly, disruptive, distracting drama in everyone involved's life. If a guy likes that kind of thing, he should go for it.

Guys, just a quick update.

So everything is finished today. It took some time. She told me numerous times "I love you" before breaing up but still i think this is not true.

I would like to thank everyone for your help and assistance, you all are awesome.
I think i need to go out looking for a better girl. Not married

Read the post I just made on this thread. Applies to you too.

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I did. This looks so true.

Still, how did u manage to leave the "out" relationship without suffering.
I've became connected to the girl a little bit, and i feel hard now.