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PostPosted: Sun Jan 31, 2016 8:54 pm 
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Hi guys,

I`m newbie in all this stuff, so please dont make fun of me.
First of all, I want to say that before some things happened to me over the last week, I used to think that I`m an average good-looking guy, but after I went to club (for the first time here) my self-confidence went low, and now I think that I`m ugly.
So I`m an international student and I study in a small college town, so most of population here are students. And there is only one club here. And I`m 24.
I went to club like 3-4 times. So, let me give you some summary. All girls (except one) lied to me: they disappeared after I paid for their drinks.
So, I will tell you how I approached the girls, so basically I was approaching saying "hey how are you? what is your name? can i get you a drink?" and then when she agrees, we go to the bar counter, while we were standing/sitting at the bar counter waiting for our drinks, I was asking her questions like "are you student here? what do you study?" and etc. and after she gets her drink she fuckin disappears. so in one day I payed like for 5-6 girls and all of them disappeared after they got their drinks.
Just only once I was lucky to speak to girl after she got her drink, and we got to the point that I was hugging her and kind of kissing her cheeks, telling her that I like her, but she was saying like "how can you like me if you dont know me" and we went outside, her fuckin friend started pulling her like "lets go" and telling her something, then again I talked sweet to her she was like "I feel like I`m convinced", I even kissed her, she asked smthing (I can`t remember exactly) but it was something like "where we gonna go", I said "to my apartment" she said "no", I said "to hotel", she again said "no" ; then again her freakin friend told her smthing and she was like no we dont know each other I have to go.
I can`t understand if she really liked me or she was just playing to get free drink.
And the interesting thing is that I had a small talk to that crazy friend of her, she was saying like "you dont know each other take her out one day" she herself gave me her own number like "I will text you my friend`s number".
The next day morning I texted to her friend asking for that girl`s number and she didn`t reply. I can`t understand why they lied, if she didn`t like me, she could just reject me politely without playing around with me.
I also want to add that yes, to be honest, at the beginning I was lookin for one night stand, but then I changed my mind, I wanted to date her.
And also sometimes I had a problem to understand what she is saying (I mean pronunciation, I couldnt hear) because of 2 things: I`m not a native speaker and it was very noisy in the club and outside. So is it because of that I failed? I mean, is it because I`m not American and I`m not native speaker she was not interested in me?
And also I want to add that I`m White/Caucasian, I`m not Asian.


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 01, 2016 8:34 am 
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Without getting more detail, it sounds like you are jumping the gun with your style of approach. If you're going to be a guy that buys a girl a drink, don't offer until she shows more interest. You asking questions and her answering them doesn't necessarily mean that she's interested, but instead she could be being polite. You buying her a drink means that you want more from her and her disappearing is her not being willing to give more.

I'm willing to bet that it's your approach to women that's giving you the problem and has nothing to do with your looks. The girl that cock blocked you with the one girl that you said was interested is just part of the game.

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 01, 2016 9:48 am 
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Lol don't buy girls drinks. Show the girl that you like her... Don't try an buy her affection.


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 01, 2016 11:45 am 
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I have to agree, girls feed off guys that approach like that. They all laugh about how they can go out and not pay for a single drink.

BUT! The point is it sounds like you have no problem approaching which, for a lot of guys is 80% of the battle. So all you need to do is work on what you actually do in the interaction. I doubt it will take you long to start getting good results.


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 01, 2016 12:09 pm 
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lol stop buying drinks, dude.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2016 10:04 am 
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I have found her on facebook, should I add her? Maybe I could ask her out through facebook?


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 02, 2016 11:51 am 
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It's fine to buy her a drink as long as she's earned it. However you're buying their attention.

Also no, don't facebook girls you meet in clubs unless you have proper reason to do so.

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