Exactly.
When you're a newbie at this you tend to think the Sun revolves around you. It doesn't. I had more entertaining conversations with my desk lamps rather than with some girls, hot/gorgeous as they were. In fact quite often the most hottest of girls are also the most blend. Criticism builds character, and they don't get much of that since guys would drag their dicks through molten lava to get a chance of prematurely ejaculating in their presence. But that's another topic.
Point is, women are not these perfect unobtainable entities. You don't need to impress her, you simply need to search for compatibility.

Also like JD said, masculine frame is stronger. If you don't feel/make it awkward, neither will she.
This girl is not everything you want in a woman. Far as I read you haven't had sex nor kissed nor formed an actual connection with her. In reality you don't know her.
You're not "in love" with her, you're in love with the ideal you've created for her.
Yeah, Models is the only book I'd stick my name by. I'd also get the audiobook since Mark (the author) reads it himself, so it adds some depth and perspective.

Also, JD, "you have really short fingers" .

See what I did there?

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But I have no attraction for these other women. Do I game them anyway?
Damn, so my desire to have a good conversation / have her react in a positive way was basically neediness in disguise.

I wanted to take her out somewhere today, but I didn't go to class because I want to take a step back and really consider what the hell I'm doing. I'm letting this one girl control my mind, my behavior, actions.. that has to change.
LMAO, dragging dicks through lava for the chance to prematurely ejaculate..

You're right, I have to get her off the pedestal if I want to think clearly, and look to see if there are things that will hinder compatibility, instead of focusing solely on her beauty or personality.
In love with the ideal I've created.. damn, mind blown. I have to think about that statement a lot more.

I know her biggest passion in life, and I'm the only person she's shown it to. I know where she wants to travel, what she wants to do, her dreams.. I have a connection with her, but whatever attraction there was has been killed off by my inadequacies.
Audiobook, got it

Did you ever make a move? Or did you discuss her to death?

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When I talk about connection I mean emotional bond. Knowing her biggest passion means she trusts you, and that's great if you want a bff. But you don't want that.

I know most guys are infused to think that first you need to earn a woman's trust so that she will sleep with you, which ironically is the fast lane to the friend zone, but in reality all you need is attraction. Sex comes first, trust builds later, if at all. She wants to fuck the daylight out of you because in the simplest of terms you turn her on. Knowing her deepest dreams doesn't turn her on. Flirting, teasing and being a challenge does.

So no, attraction was killed by your understandably wrong mindset.

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Ahm, we went out today and did stuff, had some fun and interesting moments, and we plan to go out and do fun stuff next week as well.. and I escalated kino just a little bit. She knows my intentions cause it's obvious (maybe, idk) -- e.g. I introduced my friend to her saying "This beautiful girl is ____." And then we hung out for like 2-3 hours.. it was fun.

I also met another cute girl today, trying to get over my oneitis.. You guys are spot on, going in with the abundance mindset makes women want me more, like wtf lol..
Flirting, teasing, and being a challenge.. Alright, I have a lot of learning to do..
I am reading Corey Wayne's book right now and I will be reading your favorite book (Models) next.

Yes she does, escalate.

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Is there an in depth guide on light banter? I'm a deeply philosophical and somewhat serious guy -- I have no idea how to have a light, playful conversation.

I'm working through Corey Wayne's book, next up is Models, then Double Your Dating, and then numerous other books that were suggested in my books thread. Will these help me understand what light banter is all about?

When I try to have a light conversation, I usually end up acting like a complete idiot and treating the other person like a 5 year old -- it's cringeworthy.

Don't go any further than models.
Those two books are enough, they cover everything you need to know.

How do you talk with your friends OP? or better yet your best friend? I enjoy philosophical conversations as much as I enjoy talking about absolute nothings for the sole purpose of fun. Maybe you need to widen your spectrum, but all in all just attempt to not take yourself too seriously.

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^ he's right.

2 books is plenty. You should be out approaching girls while you're reading them, at least 30 approaches per week. 6 months after you finish reading them both 7-10 times, you should have hundreds and hundreds of approaches under your belt. At this point if your results are still lacking a little then try something more... from what I hear, 60 Years of Challenge is a good one at this point, but not before it.

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Thanks guys. I'll start doing that. It will get me into the abundance mindset.

There's this other girl I've known for a year (I don't like her romantically) who's giving me strong IOIs.. she made me this hand-crafted present (probably took her hours), linked me to a song that she wrote (a "love" song), initiates text convos with me on a regular basis, etc. I consider this girl just a friend, though.

But the one girl I do like (the subject of this thread), she doesn't text unless I text her, yet she's willing to hang out and go on little adventures. She doesn't talk to anybody other than her few female friends at school, and most of the time she's by herself and goes home with her brother after school. I'm not sure if this is her personality or what, but I was hoping that she would at least be curious enough why I wasn't in school today, but guess not. Is this one a hopeless cause?

According to Corey Wayne, it takes time for a woman to fall for a man, and consistent time and effort, but I'm not sure if in the end I'll actually get this girl or not. She's very reserved, perhaps due to her cultural upbringing (she's middle eastern but dresses very fashionably and modern). But man I really like this girl.

This girl likes me, two months ago a short while after I met her she gave me hints like "my mom thinks I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life," so I know she likes me (or maybe liked, idk, maybe I'm friend zoned now I have no idea).

Treat this girl....
Like this girl.....

Magic will happen.

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Yea, 3-5 months roughly if you're doing everything right. However, there's obviously no specific amount of time, this is just a generalisation. Some couples are never in love, then something just randomly clicks after 10 years and they're crazy about one another.

Your worst problem is that you care too much. You need more women. Spin more plates and you won't notice if you drop one, as I've said before in other threads.

I know I just said not to get yourself wrapped up in material, but it wouldn't hurt to watch a couple of Jason Capital videos on not giving a fuck and neediness etc. Just make sure you're spending at least 3 hours approaching for every 1 hour that you're spending looking at material. You can't learn to play football, drive a car or sing a song by reading about other people doing it, can you?

As Heywood said, treat them the same. Be playful and challenging with every woman, and never let them take you off your path, ok? It's selfish if you start changing for them, believe it or not.

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