I'd really like to see Charles' input on this topic. I highly, highly doubt the situation is even remotely close to what you're describing.
You think you're the first dude to come here and blame his city/country/culture? You're making excuses to justify your failures, instead of spending that time learning from them, which is why you see little to no progress.
Also yes, you may use that line.
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"Simply be yourself" is not good advice when it comes to dating and politics where I live. Obviously bringing up politics or anything political is probably a bad idea, but often the girl will be the one to interject a political statement somewhere and I'll fail to restrain myself in replying to it. The smart thing would be to change the subject as soon as possible rather than addressing it in any way.
Where I live, the political correctness is so omnipresent that it's basically suicide to address anything political in any way on a first date, if you don't agree with the officially sanctioned PC opinion. Anytime I say anything that veers from the acceptable PC opinion, I can feel tension suddenly enter the room, and not the good (sexual) kind of tension, the bad kind.
Maybe in a relationship it's different, but on a first date it's basically suicide unless she's one of the 5% or less of girls in my area who don't think this way.
Anyway, it's probably true that I am thinking too much from a "trying to please her" mindset, and I should be thinking from more of a "relax and have fun" mindset. But politics is the big exception to that. From my experience that's an area where it's best to STFU and change the subject, every time.
I never told you to be yourself. I told you to stop kissing womens' asses by trying to prove yourself to them. And I also told you to improve what you can and accept what you can't.
That's hardly saying be yourself. But every man has a sense of identity and things he stands for. You seem to disregard yours. Instead of worrying about finding a girl
you like, you're obsessed with finding a girl that will like you. That's a beggar mentality.
In regards to the shoes, do whatever you desire. But if you decide to wear the heels you can't run around looking insecure when you sit down "because it shows". Either own the fact that you're short and chose to enhance your height simply because you like it better, or own the fact that you're short and don't wear heels altogether. You still have to own it.
CHAT
