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Long story short, there's a girl (we'll call her Joanne) at work who I flirt with and occasionally grab lunch with. She is very much into me, that I know for sure. When we hang out there is lots of talk about sex (whats your favorite sex position... I heard all girls from private schools are horny all the time is that true?) and she is VERY responsive.

I went to our work christmas party when I was on annual leave, so they did not expect me to be there. Everyone was coming up to me and talking to me and to be honest it made me look very good socially. I quickly glanced over at Joanne and smile. She was looking at me, smiles back then looks away shyly.

We have a few drinks in our respective social groups and then throughout the night I was brushing along her with my arm. She texted me: Are you bumping into me on purpose?? . I replied "Yes, I am". I then tell her to come downstairs for a walk. She says she is caught up with her boss talking and can't go. I said, "I'll be waiting down till 8:05 (it was 7:55), if you're not there by then I'm leaving".

She calls me at 8:04 and says to give her 5 minutes. I said okay, 8:10 and that's it. She comes down, I meet her half way. Prior to this, there was never any strong physical contact, mostly light touches and her putting her hands on my shoulders etc.

When we meet, she puts her hands around me and I put my hand around her back. We walk forward and she says "what are you doing, we can't do this". I said "do what, go for a walk?". She replies, "No, I know whats going to happen", in a playful voice while rubbing her hands around my shirt. I pull her to the side and I make out with her. I check her out and she sees it. I say "Cute skirt". She says "what do you like about it. I reply "I like how I can see how sexy your legs are."

I'll cut it off here unless people want me to keep going. Long story short, we make out a lot, I'm grabbing her ass, she unzips me grabs my cock in my pants etc. I displayed a very dominant character.



TO SUM UP: I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND JOANNE KNOWS, spare me morals etc I'm just 21 and not sure if I'm ready to settle with her.

Joanne and I have build a strong sexual foundation through chatting etc. I straight up asked her if she would like to have sex with me out of the blue and she said she was very impressed and no one has ever been that direct before. From there I established that I wasn't looking for anything serious, just fun. She says she does like to have fun.

I found out later at my work christmas party that she is going to be leaving Jan 8th, so I want to escalate as quick as possible.

Lots of Kino, made out with Joanne all over the suburb pretty much, she grabbed my dick at work christmas party. Saying "we can't do this, you have a girlfriend" and all that, I just stare at her and say "you don't know my situation". (no idea what to do when she keeps bringing this shit up it's annoying). She mentions that she is seeing someone and he wont like it, but Joanne keeps escalating physically with me on her own.

She messages me the day after the christmas party asking why I was there and in the next text she says "Ps. Im so fking sexually frustrated right now".

She has never flaked out on me to meet up before. I gave her a call yesterday (Friday) to come out for a drive. She said she might be meeting with friends (fair enough its Friday) so I said, tell me by 7pm if you are coming. No reply till 7, I call her and ask if shes coming. She said she is with her friends. I said "fair enough, "You know my intentions, I'm going to stop now." I'm planning on waiting for a bit to freeze her out, but at the same time I want to escalate ASAP because she's leaving work. I'm not sure if I jumped the gun by saying that.

So... What do I do now...?

You probably did jump the gun saying that. But I'd say she's attracted enough to not matter so much. Still a fuckup though.
Make your intentions known via actions, not words. Get her for a few drinks and take it from there. A shitload of guys will talk their way out of a sure thing.

I remember that one guy who pulled a girl form a club and talked himself out of sex on they way home - in the cab. Fuck me if I know how he did it, but there you have it.

She clearly wants you. So capitalize on her feelings. Ask her out before Jan 8th. Tell her you wanna see her before she leaves. Don't get too explicit. Let her imagination be your best friend. And unleash that sexual tension when the time is right.

As for your girlfriend, just acknowledge and amplify.

She says: "We shouldn't do this"
You say: "You're right" (And keep doing)
She says: "This is so wrong"
You say: "Very wrong" (and keep doing the wrong)

Get it? Her protests are "logical". But her actions are based on what she feels. And that feeling of "naughtiness" will amplify tenfold once you agree with her, therefore what she feels will be even more intense.

Women love it when a man loses himself in his desire for her.

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She didn't flake. She told you in advance that she would be meeting with friends.

She's obviously hot for you. Just figure out a time when SHE will be free and go for it.

It amazes me how many dudes will jump into a running plane, take off with no idea how to land the fucker.

Apparently your not worried about fallout,

Isolate Her!

Lead her to a broom closet, hit stop on the elevator. Get a fucking ROOM.

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Heywood brings up a valid point. You can skip the whole going out shit. Find a place to isolate her. She's hot for you dude. She has LITERALLY told you how much she wanted sex. Just try not to overthink things. Make things easy for HER to fuck you.