I have been on this forum for quite a long time and I know I similar kind of problem a lot, but I really really need your help
I really didn't know where to post this so I just posted here. i dated my ex for like 2 years(on and off) without sex(she was a virgin). We broke up because we kept having issues.
After months of not seeing each other, we met yesterday(she called and said she really needed 2 see me, it was urgent). I went to her place and we spoken about general stuff for a few minute. She asked whether I was seeing anyone and I said no(which was the truth). When I asked her she said she has been seeing someone(who happens to be someone I know very well) 4 2months and lost her virginity to him and said she is scared because she is losing herself with him.
I felt down and demoralised. This is the first time in my life I'm losing sleep over an issue. What I spent two years trying to achieve someone used weeks. I'm very sure the guy is out there laughing and making fun of me. He rolls with my very good friends(social circle) and knows much about me. I feel stupid and embarrassed. I'm planning on dishing my friends to avoid further embarrassment.
This is my question
1)is it possible to fuck her even just once to relief myself of the anger and depression I'm feeling??
This is where I need your help
I really want to learn from all of you, I really do. I need your help. I need to become a better man. Help me.

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How the fuck did you.. dude, TWO years in a sexless relationship? Do you even realize how severely fucked up that is?

Honestly I don't understand why you'd willingly go through that. And then she called you, and you event went over, again, willingly become her literal emotional tampon.
And to make it worse, now you want to fuck her out of spite. Because you think you have something to prove.

Forget about her. I know you feel like shit right now but truth is, you failed. Miserably. Now you can either use that experience to learn some valuable lessons, or you focus this energy on finding ways to mend your wounded ego, as if that mattered.

And you didn't fail in regards to the guy who fucked her. You failed yourself for being complacent in a 2 year sexless relationship. If it can even be called that.

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She met someone who made a move. Where as you did not.

Doesn't matter if it's your friend, stranger or JDaniels. You blew it.

Where is your pride? You want to have sex with the same girl after she has just been drilled by your mate. If there was a billion single girls on the planet you'd be okay, oh wait, there is..

Learn some game, put in the work. You are simply not working hard on this goal. You just have oneitus for your own ex gf because you have nothing else.

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How old are you?

Honestly it sounds like you're still pretty young (under or around 18)

If I'm correct I wouldn't worry about it too much.

Instead of sitting down and pining for this one girl, get off your ass and go find new ones.

Also, build some self esteem and confidence. If this issue has caused you serious anger and depression, I'd suggest you have some growing up to do.

You do not need to sleep with her. You're not in the emotional condition to make it happen anyway. You need to go out there and just meet new women.

Sleeping with a bunch of random women won't exactly help, but sleeping with a woman you actually connect with will. The thought of her will be erased and/or greatly minimized when you fall in love again. You just have to understand that you can. Start putting yourself out there. Use this situation as fuel to develop yourself socially.

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thanks for the reply. it was really insightful.
so my question is, should I focus on attaining inner peace( I have a low self esteem) or should I just approach??

In my opinion you need to be pro-active and things will self correct along the way. You will feel at your lowest - rejection after the rejection. It's about persevering through this boundary and becoming a man.

Soon as you approach and making girls smile, you might start to enjoy it. That is when the numbers become solid because you're adding value as opposed to just trying to get laid.

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Both.

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