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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 4:07 am 
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It's my big issue and I guess it makes me look bad but it is my situation. I'm nearly 32 and yes I don't have my own place and still live at home. I can't blame my lack of success on that but I do believe I would approach girls in a different way if I had my own place. I would also say I have little experience for my age even though I did have a long term relationship in my late teens. This really bothers me as most girls think guys my age should have tons of experience.

This puts additional anxiety on me and I do suffer from depression which I guess has always made me feel a bit unattractive. I know I need a lot of work but what can I do in my situation? I met a girl who seems up for fun but I can't tell her I live with my mum. Money and car isn't a problem for me but it creates a issue when the girl is 21 years old and lives at home herself. Should I bother or just remove myself from the dating world until everything is sorted? I don't want to become some fake guy who has to create another persona just to get some.


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 4:31 am 
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You're not explaining why you have this problem. Why do you still live at home since money isn't a problem?

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Jesus Fucking Christ.

Scout for an apartment at the city center near the park (so you can run there every morning), near restaurants and coffee shops (so you can instadate and bounce immediately to your apartment), near the gym (so you don't waste time commuting when working out), and near clubs and bars (so you can do night game).

Plunk in some deposit, get a good love couch, and get a good home theater system. If your apartment is near your workplace, sell the goddamn car and spruce up your wardrobe. You're NOT a kid anymore bro.

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Get your own place. God damn.

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 1:46 pm 
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I'm still here because I can't afford to move out. I also work in the evenings mainly so not sure what can I do in the day date wise?

It's messed up but it is what it is and I need some help but looks like I've come to the wrong place..... I just told her I live with my cousin but I don't know how to tell her that I have no place available.


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It's really not acceptable, past the age of 18-21, to not have a place to take your girl. No one said you need your own apartment, but you need roommates that can clear out when you need them to.

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So give up on girls until I get a place?


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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 4:04 pm 
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So give up on girls until I get a place?
It takes a mere two weeks (from searching, packing up and settling down) to get a place if you have money or good credit.

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 4:25 pm 
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I wouldn't be able to afford it still. I have money saved but my income is to low I live in London, UK I need a day job to go along with my evening work.


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I wouldn't be able to afford it still. I have money saved but my income is to low I live in London, UK I need a day job to go along with my evening work.
Get a day job to go along with your evening work.

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 6:17 pm 
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I wouldn't be able to afford it still. I have money saved but my income is to low I live in London, UK I need a day job to go along with my evening work.
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Some things you should know about life. Life doesn't give a shit about your situation. It doesn't give a fuck about your career, your logistics or even your confidence

It's all down to the individual to position themselves in best chance as possible for their situation.

I wish we could help you invent a teleportation device but I'm afraid that technology does not exist yet. So...

It's either make do with what you got. Or, you can find some other way like changing cities, earning more money, living with more people to split the rent, game closer to home, you can ask friends to use their place, you might have to sacrifice your daily Starbucks coffee and live more frugal, you can sell your car and ride to work, You can can make passive money online, if you don't know how. LEARN. The info is out there

The world does not reward stagnation. It's all under YOUR control, it's all down to you YOU to figure it out. There is no excuses, you are responsible for what you have in life.

The world wont sympathise with you. You can look for short term fixes like alley's and fucking girls in club toilets. We both know, you WILL lose out on some AMAZING women due to these hit and miss contingencies

OR...

You can look for the real fix and stop asking for tactics to fix the shitty situation, instead you can ask your self " what CAN I change in my life to fix this situation?"

What's it gonna be ? Moan or get to work ?
Hey Zookmaster, sorry bro, but you clearly don't even want to help yourself, so why make a thread?

How does one expect to kill it with the ladies and when they stay stuck at home being a Momma's boy? Is this an alpha male quality?

Having somewhere to bang should go without saying. If you're serious about meeting girls then take another read of my post.

Nobody gives a shit if you can or can't afford it.

When I split up with ex, I moved back to the city centre. i realised I couldn't afford it so I had to reduce the expenses, I moved in and split 50/50 with a friend, sold my car and bought a bicycle, cancelled my subscriptions to stuff and spend most of my money on reduced sandwiches at Tesco. I then worked my butt off around my job and I have earned back some of my luxuries. I am typing this wet and cold from my bike journey home.

But you know what, my love life is pretty damn good and I am working harder than ever to earn more money.

There is no excuse on your behalf, but I get the feeling you're very 'comfortable' and you CAN actually afford it. you don't like change but you can not deny that you're wanking too much wishing you had a real life girl sucking on the end of your nob every night so you kinda know we are speaking sense.

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PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2015 6:59 pm 
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I may have left it late but I've been trying to save. You can eat all the tesco sandwiches you want but every situation is different. Health issues over the last 10 years made working full time quite difficult and it's only been the last 3 years I've been saving. I've had a few girls over the years which kept me going but I realised as I got older it's harder to explain how things are. I made this thread to see if anyone had any alternative ideas to work around my situation...not to be told what I need to do. I'm quite aware of what I need to do, and will probably brush off girls.


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I may have left it late but I've been trying to save. You can eat all the tesco sandwiches you want but every situation is different. Health issues over the last 10 years made working full time quite difficult and it's only been the last 3 years I've been saving. I've had a few girls over the years which kept me going but I realised as I got older it's harder to explain how things are. I made this thread to see if anyone had any alternative ideas to work around my situation...not to be told what I need to do. I'm quite aware of what I need to do, and will probably brush off girls.
I asked you in the very beginning why were you still living at home with your parents? You didn't mention any health problems. You said money wasn't an issue. Now come to find out that you need an extra job to afford your own place. You have to be smart enough to give all the information if you want a good answer

From the outside, you look like a loser and don't have much value. Women are attracted to masculinity. That's assertiveness, self sufficiency, and power(at least to a degree). From what you write, you have none of those things. Should you give up on women? No. Just accept that your pickings will be very slim until you get your life sorted out.

I doubt anyone here feels sorry for your situation or your health issues when it comes to picking up women. The fact that you have the desire for them without the drive to do something about it makes you look pathetic and that you hide behind excuses to make change. Ten years of health problems is ten years of time that you should have been figuring out a way to compensate not being able to work full time. Stop making excuses.

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Another sob story,

Bro, if you're still worrying about what women are going to think of you, you're not where near having any actual consistent success yet. I'm with everyone else when say to get your own place, but there are guys with situations less fortunate than yourself that are getting laid out the ass.

If your mom doesn't care, invite the girls over to your place and stop worrying. If they don't like the fact that you live with your mom so the hell what. Thats there problem, not yours.

But serious. Get your own stop and stop complaining.

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