Hi Guys, I would like to get oppinions please on my situation.

I met a girl went on a few dates with her and we hit it off big time, she was really into me and we were texting every day - about 45% of days she would initiate. (I know every day is a mistake now)

We started shagging after the 3rd week, I think by the 5th is was not protected. This is where I think it started going a bit wrong. As she was cheated on in her last relationship I went out the way to ensure her that I was into her and wansn't going to leave her - and basically really fucking lowered my value. I made a couple of other mistakes with DLV's, which I was conscious of at the time, but just thought this bird is so into me it doesn't matter - well it bloody does ha.

She then started to see me as needy not a challange etc etc and after texting every day for like 2 months they suddenly dried up. She didn't reply to one of my messages and I did not send any to her. By this point I had worked out where it had gone wrong and I was not going to come across as even more needy.

Anyway 5 days later she sends one asking me how I am blah blah, I reply back to that 2 days later, blah blah. Then she sends another asking whats the position of us? I was still refusing to come across needy and replied blah blah,
I am sure I am over thinking this, but I wanted to keep it warm, but at the same time take some steps back. Do you think this was the correct reply for what I wanted to acheive.

I now currently have a real jelously plot as have another date, so at the bare minimum she is now seeing me as a challange instead of some weak idiot telling her I wasn't going to leave her ha!

I am thinking about leaving it a week or 2, and getting back in contact with her. I am pretty sure she now has other options, but I am pretty sure she is missing me quite bad now and I don't know the quality of her options.

Whats your thoughts, and how would you guys handle it?

Thanks

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She saw me as too available, she wasn't worried about me leaving her at this point. She saw it as just dating not a relationship.

She saw you for what you are.
You can trick a woman into fucking you, but you'll never trick her into respecting you.

Do whatever you want with her, but if you want this situation not to repeat itself in the future, stupid jealousy plots are not the solution. Put some effort into becoming, and not pretending, to be the real deal.

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Before you get to far up on the moral high ground fella, the weekend where communications went dead between us, I logged into the dating site where we met and saw that she had been logging in that week, maybe weeks before too?? I had not logged in since I met her.

I told her when we started seeing each other that I was not going to see other girls, so this is why I have now obtained myself a date.

I tried to be the real deal, but as I say unfortunately I came across as too available and not a challenge, this was my fault for not getting the balance right.

You're too gamey.

This real issue is, you'went on a date under the pretense that you're both looking for a BF and GF

Seriously, most of these problems can be rectified on the dating website just by adding "not looking for anything serious" that way, there is no surprises down the line. You will lose girls but you will be talking girls that are also want this. This is called polarising. You're essentially filtering girls that you are compatible with.

Your issue is, you're using these gamey tactics that dig yourself into a hole because you're not being honest with her. I encourage to just be bloody normal with her and text her a few times a week usually arranging to meet up for a wed Netflix and chill.

You're at this scarcity mindset that you will tell every girl (regardless of their preference) what they want to hear so that you will sleep with them. This is typical AFC's mindset and then make do with this bullshit relationship that they created and end up cheating on her and then it ending really badly.

I always turn down pussy because if I'm not compatible to start with then I end up dating a girl doing the whole 5 dates for sex thing. Instead, I only date girls who are also not looking for anything serious and usually it's a done deal on the same night I meet her. I basically lose more girls but get faster sex with the girls that I meet.

Cliff points:
• polarise by talking to girls with mutual intentions.
• stop lying to girls and playing games.
• just text her like normal. No witty jealousy plot lines needed otherwise you end up with sticking points and threads like these.

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Ok thanks for the comments.

I was not gaming her believe me, I have not read any pu material for years, however after it went dead I am analysing what happened and where not to make mistakes in the future.

She made some comments about a relationship at the start which is why I thought it would turn into that.

But I totally agree with what you say regarding the bullshit relationship and them getting cheated on after the guy says what they think they want her to hear I think this might of been a factor.

Also I never lied or played games, and I wont be sending her a text about a jealously plot line, that would be really immature and ridiculous, I want to stay friends not for her to hate me. But I feel I am available to date other girls now.

Cheers

It should really take a hell of a lot more than 2 lays to determine whether or not you want something to turn into a relationship.

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