Hello guys,

im pretty new to this and just need a good advice for starters. Before i knew something like community exists i was in the dark. I had 4 hot girlfriend (i guess from 7-9,5). Problem is they left me after a year and recently i went on a mission to find out wtf is going on and found PUA community.

I learned tons of things about women and finaly i can feel i understand why they left me. I wasnt alpha enough. The last one particularly said "You are too nice" which led me to take action.

Now after two months i can simulate alpha without a problem. I can be cocky and funny and girls like me.

My question have two parts: When i have her attention and i want to make out with her (i have the IOI) do i really need to take leap of faith and just go for it, because it always feel wrong to me, like i am changing the direction of what i want to do, even though im making dirty jokes? And how do i connect with her after she goes away for a few minutes?... it sometimes feels like i have to start over again

basicaly, the whole transition from entertaining, kino escalation, which i can do easy, to making out seems still so alien to me and i have no idea why.....

This is so contradictive: (which is it you want? make your mind up)

You just have anxiety pulling the trigger, simple as that. Force you self to make big leap. Always. Otherwise you're just gaming for reactions and playing safe. Not a good idea for seduction.
You need to become internally fulfilled that when a girl walks away, you don't feel this intense neediness of wanting her back. The less you care about her coming back, the more chance she will. Take her off that pedestal and stop NEEDING her attention. You need to flip the role. This will after hard work and sweat.

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so you are saying that i just need to take her out somewhere like "i cant hear what you are saying.... come with me" and then go for it right?......

well it seems that the problem is my "good guy" nature.... i noticed few times when i flinched a bit (i noticed i said something not so alpha, something on the line that i care what she think of me) the girl just noticed in a split second....

Yes, that is a good start. If she follows your lead, then she probably likes you.

You're in your head trying to think of the perfect lines hoping for you to like her. Change your thinking. Say whey you feel in the moment and NAIL IT.

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You don't even have to verbalize it. Many time you can just take her hand and lead her where ever you intend to.

But yes, loading the gun and then not pulling the trigger when the time comes is redundant. So make that leap.

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Come on bro. You're way over thinking this.

If kissing is changing the direction of what it is you WANT to do, then you don't actually want to kiss women. And if you don't actually want to kiss women, you don't want to have sex with women. And if you don't actually want to have sex with women then you are probably too nice. Going for the kiss is apart of the process. Do it if you want the results.

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thanks guys.... i will get to this over the weekend... i think i have to rewire myself to believe that kiss is not a big deal..... in the past it was and thats what i want to change... i will do what it takes....

A kiss is a big deal when you 13 dude.

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