Hi guys I was wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to approach this issue ( likely the issue is me)

Background info

I am new to this and have had terrible results with girls (still a virgin)

Went out on Friday and met a girl and all was going well. After the club shut she invited me back to her place so we starting making out way there. Some issues happened with her flat mates, a guy her flat mate was taking home but then changed her mind and we ended up just exchanging numbers.

The girl texted me 10 mins after getting into the cab so everything seemed cool.

I tried to arrange a meet up and called her on Sunday and she told me she was having issues with work SPAM and might be busy + she's going to spain in a few weeks for a week. (This to me sounded like a cop out/ sign of no interest)

We texted/ snapped sunday night, Monday and Tuesday. She was responding and holding her part of the convo but didn't tell me if her work issue got sorted + she doesn't initiate the convo (she did say she was busy with work)


From the above does it seem like I'm wasting my time or is she genuinely interested but busy?

And also how do I progress without sounding needy (would like to meet her ASAP and definitely before she goes Spain)

If she wants to meet you she'll find a way to meet you.

Day 2's rarely happen as a followup to club hookups.

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I agree.

Should I just wait and see if she organises it or should I just give her time and then message/ call her to plan it out.

The hopeful virgin in me is hoping her replying and not shutting me down is a sign of interest

This is a hard one mate.

It's obvious from what you say she was up for a one night stand.

But she gave you her number and shows interest...

I would suggest trusting she is interested and not messaging her everyday.

Give her time to sort out what she says is wrong and try a meet up.

There's a thin line between being needy and going for what you want.

I respect you are in a situation where you have never been with a girl and feel needy but hopefully she hasn't picked up on that seeing as she messages back.

It's official she isn't interested.
I sent her a whats app which she hasn't read but has been online since.

Move on and forget about her I guess.

Not to be an ass.

You need to work on yourself, you appear needy as hell checking when she is online etc

Ask her simply if she's interested, don't waste your time.

Wait, what?

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If OP is unsure if she's lieing or not about being busy I suggest he be straightforward and tell her he doesn't want to waste his time.

Either she wants to meet or not.

I did this.
She said she's stressed at work and just got out of a relationship so she doesn't want to settle but she isn't looking to meet guys and have one night stands so she wants to see me again.

This is good right?


And then I fucked it up today by sending her "oh Lord you won't believe what happened to me last night"

She hasn't responded..

No...
Girls use these kind of excuses to avoid hurting your feelings so the text you sent her next day is irrelevant.

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Personally disagree.
That seems like a non-committal commitment to date.

Dont think it's dead but nothing to get excited about.

Nothing wrong with pursuing this (AND OTHER OPTIONS) .

I think the life line was her saying she's interested in seeing him again.

Op look for other options and message her in a week or so. DO NOT HARRASS HER because you will kill what ever chance you have