So there was this cute girl in my class at my university. Always caught her looking at me, one day it even seemed like she waited for me after class and I completely ignored her for some reasons I'm not going to get into right now. So today I was talking to someone after class and she walked by, so I asked if I could walk with her. Instantly she seemed unsure and uncomfortable so I just said 'I'll walk with you' (trying to assert myself). She immediately told me 'you better not try to hit on me' meanwhile she was like walking ahead of me almost like she was trying to get away from me. And when I asked why she told me she's had a boyfriend for 4 years. I ended up telling her that I noticed she waited for me after class the one day (bad idea) and she was like 'what are you talking about?' we ended up parting ways and it was just an overall awkward interaction.

I think I came off way too strong I don't really know. Point is it was obvious I made her feel uncomfortable, which was not my intention. Now I'm a big boy I've been rejected before so it's certainly not the end of the world. But I have to see her in class two times a week so how do I act around her now? Should ignore her?

Also if she kept looking at me and seemingly waited for me after class, what gives? Was it the whole 'I have a boyfriend but like attention from other guys' type thing?

I know I'm not an ugly guy. I'm definitely on the heavy side, which I know can turn women off, but I also know women think I'm handsome for the most part. I've been eating healthy and working out lately so I want to keep that up. But in the mean time I want to work on approaching women and at least getting comfortable enough with doing that... Some help would be much appreciated.

Yeah, that was mishandled.

I would guess that you mis-read the situation after class and that she wasn't really waiting for you that day... And if she was, THAT is when you should have made your move... not months later, randomly.

Honestly - why do you need a strategy for how to act around someone who's never going to get with you? You don't... Just act normal. She appears to be clearly disinterested, Not like you can fuck it up!

Yea I feel like I just looked too much into what was not really any type of signal at all... Well I appreciate the advice. And yea timing was off I guess even if she was into it... Well that's that I guess. Appreciate the advice. I plan to dive into this stuff if I can, I feel like the forum has a lot to offer

Try being more socially attuned.

When a woman says "you better not be hitting on me" and "I have a boyfriend", unless it's blatantly obvious she's being playful you don't call her out on whatever you think she was secretly doing.

Anyway, why does everyone make such a big deal out of these things lately? she rejected you. So what? Pretending she doesn't exist would be pathetic.

Stay unphased OP. If it's no big deal to you it's no big deal to her either.

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You got rejected. I have been rejected 99% of the time, just like most bullets miss their enemy but you will hit the mark eventually. More volume.

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Much appreciated. Whole thing is I'm not a socially awkward person at all. I've always been able to naturally be the 'life of the party' kind of guy, if the mood was right and I was feeling up to it, so to speak. And past interactions with women almost always just happened 'naturally' so I'm not really aware of what I did right or wrong in those situations. I've had decent success with women you could say but as far as like approaching women I'm certainly new to it. I appreciate the advice guys!

First of all, something will be awkard if you make it awkard, act normal, don't give a F$%& about what she thinks, even say hi if you want to.