I was just reading a shark blog post on her past. How not to ask about it, not to bring it up, it is your insecurity and her past is left better in the past. Yet he also says about cheating, if a girl cheated once then maybe it was the situation, if shes cheated on the last 6 boy friends then run a mile.

Which lead me to thinking... how much should you ask? There was a girl who I went to college with and she seemed like a lovely girl, i'm guessing around family they all think the sun shines out of her ass, however as college went on she fucked half the population and one day (drunk) she sucked a guy off in front of a whole party.

When I think about my future partner, although it may be in the past, but I would never want to date a girl that is even capable of being that much of a slut, is this an insecurity? or is this just the type of girl that you should always stay away from?

Bit of both. It's your job not to settle with a girl full of red flags. That's what 90% of the world do and explains why there is so much cheating and infidelity.

Be picky, settle for someone that YOU like and don't stop till you find that girl. Everyone has their preferences. To some people, her sucking off a guy in front of 20 people can be view to some people as adventurous and sexually liberated. But it has nothing to do with you. It's your problem if you consider them slutty.

I'm sure everyone's mother is into kinky shit and perhaps done worse. But you still love her and you can't change the past. If that stuff raises red flags for you...then fair enough, move along till you find someone that Is more compatible.

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In my opinion it's easy to pick up on red flags based on her personality. You don't need to know her past to know what she's capable of.

And the fact that she cheated on all her past boyfriends means nothing in regard to your current relationship with her. If you're a quality guy she will not cheat if she's of any worth herself (aka not a notorious slut).

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I don't think its an insecurity at all. Its sort of doing your research before you invest your time and energy into something. If you're going to play the stock market you can gamble and just settle a random stock and cross your fingers or you can do your research on its history to get a better understanding of its future.

Who wants to parade the girl around that everyone else has already slept with? Its like eating food after everyone else has already dug their hands in it. I'll pass, especially when their is fresh food directly next to it.

Now I will say that certain guys because of the past and history find women who are more promiscuous to be a bit more healing. They relate to them more. Perhaps its something with their mothers.

I personally ask a woman about her history. I don't go too deep, I just listen for little cues. From their you make your decision. Some guys don't, thats them. They take more gambles. I'd just rather not gamble unless I have to.

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Interesting thoughts, thanks guys.

This is how girls find boyfriends. If you can't handle it, then girls will just keep lying to you about it lol

The slut shaming is strong in this one.

Girls are naturally highly sexual creatures. Most men don't know this because of the slut shaming, both in society and in their own actions. If you judge her for these things or thinks that you are likely to then chances are she won't tell you.

I have found that the best practice for maximizing good interactions with women is to not judge but rather to accept the girl for who she is. Some would say the that the past doesn't matter, I however am of the opinion that the past is the best predictor of the future. For example, a girl that tells me she has cheated is likely to again. The insecurity is having the past mean something about you. If you accept the person for who they are, even if they are a cheater, there is no reason not to embrace it for what it is. I ask my dates, "Why are you single?" They often go into a long spiel about how the old guy was no good, broke her heart or whatever. If you listen to her, actually listen to her you will learn a lot about her and strengthen the connection because you are demonstrating that you actually care. it will help build a strong connection.

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