…but here's my thing.

All this stuff you guys are telling me (and thank you so much for replying) and all the stuff I'm reading about in this book and the NLP literature - I already do this shit everyday, and I'm actually pretty good at it. I'm the guy at work everybody loves, I now everybody's name/relationship status/kids/hobbies, etc. and kick ass at just listening and talking to people, solving problems and charming the pants off of them while doing it. I can read people - by the way their standing and the inflections in their voice - and react to it in an effort to positively impact them at that moment.

But when I am out with a women, or see a women I'd like to approach, fucking 'shy guy' takes over and plays with the whole switchboard. Perfect example - I'm out with this girl for the third time tonight and everything goes effortlessly great - leading up to the walk back to her car. I know what I wanna do, I wanna wrap my arm around her and look into her eyes and smile and make her stop in her tracks and just shove my tongue down her throat. This, sadly, is not what I did(do). I mean we walked pretty close to one another the whole time, playfully bumping into one another and what not, but at no time did I just "take" what I wanted. What's upsetting is that this girl likes me, I know she is "into me" and has me in the "potential lover" folder. I mean I could have grabbed her by the throat and slammed her on the trunk of her car and started kissing her - and she would have wrapped her legs around me and dropped her purse and start undoing my zipper. But in reality I feel like we just kissed b/c it was mutually agreed (not out loud) that we wanted to make out with each other… and it just happened… I DIDN"T MAKE IT happen.

So what is it I'm not triggering when I'm out (around) women? What can I do to get myself to turn the corner and embody the same swagger, confidence and charm when I'm on my time as when I'm at work? How do I get myself to a point where I can walk up to a '10', get rejected, and smile as I walk away?

Grow some balls and GO FOR IT.

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Realize that you have more to lose by not acting on what you want. Keep pretending that you don't want to shove your tongue down her throat because that's the easiest route to not shoving your tongue down her throat.

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Practice. Repetitions. Rejections. It's the only way. I love the fuckers who say it's so easy. Just dive in and make it work. Ok. Fine. Tell that to the 98% who aren't versed in this shit.

Make the move.

She wants it.

You want it.

Kiss her.

You know when people say "just fucking do it", it really is that simple. You feel the urge to shove you tongue down halfway through her body? Stop her, slam your hand in her throat and do it. Put all of that fucking passion you're feeling into it.

She'll never question it. Nothing turns a woman on more than a mans' raw desire. She wants to feel wanted to the extent of losing control. So lose control. 95% of guys can't offer her that. They can't offer themselves that.
Do it. She'll love you for it.

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step out of the mold fuckers.

we are artists.

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make a motherfuking statement.

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dammit this place needs more art and rc has just provided it. ty rc.

Good replies - thanks everybody!

Coming from someone with an *actual* psychology degree, please take everything you know about NLP with an entire saltshaker of salt. While there are some useful concepts, NLP is mostly self affirming bullshit.
This seems to me like you try to get everyone to like you. Which is good, but won't get a woman to be sexually ATTRACTED to you. Bear in mind that these are two very different kinds of feelings.



Also, do what everybody else says and just do it!