Ok, so i made another thread, and there's a lot of unbelievers in the idea. Oneitus w/e. Theres a time when you know its the mother of your unborn children and that you fucked it up. However, at the end of the day i didn't make enough effort with my ex because on many levels i was afraid to get fucked over, i thought the balance was good, and leaving her for a few months was not taken well by her. Blocked/ignored her for 6 months until now....

I am back now, she lives a little distance away so its hard to sort shit out. But landed wednesday and casually messaged her and we messaged for a bit, she just said she was sorry for everything, and she said she had been seeing some guy but didnt go anywhere because she didnt want to do the distance as it would end up like me and her. I told her she should have gone for it (playing it cool), she then said can we be friends? I replied, no im far too good looking. She also told me she had looked on my sisters facebook a couple of days ago to see if there was any news about me.

Since wednesday, i have not replied to her last message as it was getting too friendly for my liking.

My plan....
Message her maybe tomorrow, being playful in texts, not mentioning anything bad, nothing blank, just fun.
Asking her if she fancies hanging out this week as i have two weeks off now. - This is the hard part, if anyone has any advice??
Meeting up with her, and i know i can do it from this point.

Any ideas would be appreciated. I will keep you guys updated. And tell you how this goes.

Here is some great advice, it is perfect for what you're looking for: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=192266&p=924286#p924286

Warning though. Don't copy the OP - He is a chode that only looks for kind of advice as long as he hears what he wants to hear

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Ignoring her was a stupid move. Her attraction for you dissipated and she's over you. You're looking at the past through rose coloured glasses and imagining her to be better than she actually is - you're only human. I do it too, I miss school and imagine it as this amazing experience I had. Truthfully, I hated every fucking minute of it while I was there. Same thing happens with girls... that's why I joined this forum and got my shit together.

Google: Corey Wayne 3% Man Scribd. It'll take you to a website where you can read his book for free. Watch the videos that it tells you to watch, then read it again, then again, then again. Come back when you've read it ~5 times.

I'm not going to tell you to go out approaching women, cause you'd only attract lesbians at the moment.

Give yourself a makeover. Mentally and physically.

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I say move on.

But if you want to do something.. Call the girl and ask her to meet up man. You're playing too many games. If you're legitimately in a position that would qualify you to be "ready" for this situation you would call her and make it happen. It is only neediness and fear of rejection that is influencing this " hot/cold" behavior. And if you're dealing with fear of rejection, you may want to consider whether or not you're ready for the girl you're afraid to be rejected by.

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Eddie, you are right there, man. I am playing games, im just thinking about how we got together in the first place and how i didn't give a shit about her, and i met up with her simply because i thought she was fun, but she meant nothing. I just felt like that attitude would work again considering the needy shit never works.

I feel like i hear so many different things from so many sources and they conflict so much. Am I totally over her, no. However, aslong as she agrees to meet up with me I know i can win her back. I should not be afraid though, il call her tomorrow, if she says no i go meet someone new tomorrow night. If she says yes i go meet someone tomorrow night anyway.

How should I ask her though? I'm liturally driving passed her house this week to see my friend. Not even to see her for an excuse either, it was all planned out, then i saw on the map the road i go passed is 2 miles from her house. Do i tell her im stopping or ask her if she wants to go shoppping for a bit as i need some new tees?

I used to get this kind of oneitis lol. Man, I was a fucking pussy.

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J Daniels, been watching your guy here, he has loads of videos on getting your ex back etc...

What I'm skeptical of is when the woman says "can we just be friends" as she is afraid of losing you, again etc...

he says to say, look i love you, and want a romantic relationship with you, however, that is all. Until you want that then we can no longer see each other. Walk away, and never EVER contact her. If she does months down the line then go on a date.

What are your thoughts on that Eddie?

As a side note it seems very dejected on here the case of the possibility of ever getting back with an ex. I was thinking of this and my parents split up for a bit, got back together and were stronger than ever. Although some people on here say its wasted effort. But it could just be the wrong time. Wrong place. And if there is a chance that you find someone in the wrong period, then reconnect, i cannot see the problem in this?

Your best bet of having something healthy with her.

Because you seem to be clueless... I'm going to tell you something shocking: Everything that you thought you knew about women, is wrong.

The strongest negotiating position is to be able to walk away and mean it. Not to pretend you mean it by ignoring her calls like a butthurt pussy, and then go creeping back when you can't get another girl.

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Take notes gentlemen.

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