I was talking to a girl on Tinder a few nights ago and we talked for a bit. Then, I messaged her back today and she said she wanted to meet me at a bar.

It suddenly struck me....

I spend my whole days planning a business. Talking to architects, contractors, lenders, doing maintenance, etc...

And this is my life. That is what I do.

I would tell her that in about 30 seconds and then what else do I have to offer? I don't have a billion dollars yet (or even a million) and even if I did, so what? Would it impress her if I did?

It suddenly struck that I don't have very much to offer as far as enhancing the quality of someone else's life.

What should I talk about besides that? My past? I talk fast and that would come out in about 2 minutes...

Ask about her? I could find all that out in 2 minutes as well.

As far as "having fun," I'm not sure that would happen.

I am filthy from work so I asked her if she wanted to do it another night. Haven't heard back since.

I also got another 2 numbers off Tinder in the past couple days.

It's not about conversational topics. It's about vibing with the girl. Getting on the same energy level. Enjoying each other's presence.

If a girl wants to meet you off of Tinder, she thinks you're attractive and wants to fuck you. All that holds her back, is that she's not presently turned on. All you need to do is make her feel comfortable and amp up the sexual tension. Then start touching her and make this touching increasingly sexual.

That's it. I'm not saying I haven't had interesting conversations with girls I've slept with. But truthfully, most of the girls I've met and had really, really good conversations with, I didn't fuck. Probably because I was having so much fun just talking to her, I literally lost track of my sexual interest in her, and there was basically no sexual tension. I did sleep with a few of those girls, but it was after things cooled down a lot on the conversational front. But my rate was bad on those dates. Much worse than usual. I actually consider great conversation to be a big fat red flag now. If we start chatting too easily and it's getting too fun, I literally tone things down.

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You seem confused by the very foundations of human interaction. Nobody cares about your job or how much money you make. They care about how you make them feel and the quality of the time spent together.

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I will keep that in mind.

From PM, since it's not exactly personal Since you're in the reading phase, give 60 YOC a read(all of his books are basically the same, just read ONE of them). That should give you a good "on paper" idea. You'll have to experiment and screw some things up along the way.

For in case this date is really soon, I'll quickly summarize(please read the book later, though). Sexual tension is created through eye contact, silent pauses, slowing down your rate of speech and most importantly, having a highly sexual mindset. Don't get lost in "thinking of things to say". You should be thinking about her in a sexual manner the entire time. While you're chatting about your favorite Drake song, you're thinking about kissing her neck and running your hands up her thighs. When you're walking through the parking lot and she gets a step ahead of you and you see her ass, you should be thinking about what it will look and feel like once you've stripped her down and on all fours as you're fucking her from behind on your bed.

Don't talk about these things. I'm just saying to have them on your mind. She'll pick up on it, and it will move things along. You'll still need to do some things on the physical side, but those will come a lot more naturally when you already feel like you've done much more with her.

Another good tip is something Majikal said a while ago. Whenever you meet a girl, treat her like your girlfriend from the moment you see her. You wouldn't think twice about kissing your girlfriend or taking her hand at any given moment in time. You don't ask yourself "Gosh, is this the RIGHT MOMENT to kiss her?". You just do it when you feel like it, or it seems like she wants you to. You don't over think it.

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This sucks because I barely look girls in the eye as it is. And when I do, there's a lot of resentment and anger involved.

So unless she's into bdsm....

Well, then I guess you'll have to start practicing.

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RSDTyler

Yea.