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I'm going through the proscess of changing, my biggest improvement i'm starting not to give a shit of I women rejects me,
My biggest problem right now is self-esteam, which likly is why I've had so much trouble with women in the past, which has been improving over the last 2 months.. the other problem I have\had is shyness and approach anxiety.
Approach anxiety will never go, but you've got to try and learn to appreciate it... kind of like the pain in the gym - it'll never go, but it'll be less and less and it'll take more and more to feel the same level of pain. Imagine you start working out and you bench press 50kg for 4 sets of 8 reps... the next day you'll be in absolute agony. But a year later, you could probably do that same workout and feel nothing... cause you'd be so much stronger. It's the same with game. You start out and it takes guts to even open an ugly woman just to ask for directions and get yourself warmed up, it scares you... but then a year later, you'd only feel the same amount of fear if you did something like walked up to 3 girls and 2 guys to game what you guessed was the single girl... the key is to think to yourself "this fear, is me getting better"
As for being shy, you just have to completely throw yourself at a situation without even thinking. Get yourself to the point where you're in too deep to back out before you even realise what you're doing. If you meet a new person... ask them something about themselves instantly, just break the ice without even thinking about what to say, and keep doing this over and over... It sometimes helps to purposely say something stupid, too. It shows you that it doesn't even matter if you end up looking silly.
CHAT
