Hey guys,

Would really appreciate some advice on this. Met this girl at the gym recently we went out a couple of times got to know each other well and I finally 'kiss closed' on the third date. She seemed really into me and we went out a couple more times. We were planning another date and then I got this message about 2 weeks ago:

"About this weekend I think it's maybe we best leave it, I've had such a great time with you and think you're amazing but not sure if I see us together maybe just something missing. I'm really gutted as time flies when I'm with you and I've had such a great time which it makes so pants but I don't want to lead you on if I'm not sure that I see anything happening. Sorry I know that's totally rubbish but I wanted to be honest. I wish I didn't feel like that as you have so many qualities that I think are great."

Felt like I'd been hit by a bus. Anyway since then I am working out hard reading PUA books to try and improve so this doesn't happen again or ideally get another shot with her. I replied to her text explaining how disappointed I am but there hasn't been any other communication since apart from she 'liked' a couple of posts on my Facebook.

Thanks in advance.

Seems to be one of the most legit messages from a girl I have seen in a while. She's just not available right now dude, tough luck. Best to play it cool, forget about her and pursue other women. But don't ignore her...if she ever comes across your radar in future, don't be a prick, but don't assume anything.

Chances are it's just not gonna happen dude...happens all the time, no biggie.

-Dilla

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Thanks for the reply Dilla, sound advice. I'm generally quite good at getting girls to like me, I'm confident and have good stories. Sometimes I struggle with taking things to the next level out of the 'friends zone', I mean we obviously kissed but 5 dates and no sex isn't good! Like if we were in a public place I felt a bit awkward about kissing her. Any advice would be great! Cheers.

In the future,

If you ever get a text message like that again just completely leave it. Expressing your disappointment only reaffirms to her that she made the right decision because it made you so emotional. When you just walk it leaves her to think whether or not she made the right choice because you were unaffected by it.

If you wanted any shot you stifled it a bit by replying to that message in such sorry way. (not that i know what you said).

The willingness to walk is one of the key things you must learn in this game. Check the PUA lounge section for a piece I wrote tiled " Think Like A Woman, Act Like A Man". That will answer more of your questions.

Stay up bro. You didn't even bang the girl yet so it wasn't that serious. Plenty more where that came from.

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I don't want to hurt you, but she's not THAT gutted. If she was that gutted... she wouldn't do it. There could be another guy in the picture or something. The fact of the matter is though, more girls. Get more girls, and 1 won't make a difference.

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She wasn't feeling the vibe, let you down easy, it happens. Next.

Great thanks guys and yes I admittedly did send a rather needy response. Getting myself out there again now though! @Eddiefews, cheers will check that out.

I just wanna emphasize on what Eddie said so you understand just how important it is.

Do not reply to those kinds of texts in the future.

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