I have noticed a pattern of mine and it goes like this. I get a girl's number n it only happens when I text the pretty ones, the one I find attractive not all girl's. But I start texting stupid shit to them. I call it praising. I praise them in everything their looks, their qualities, skills etc. But even worse. I text them n send pictures (pictures like stuff I'm about to cook and asks them what they feel like eating? And asks them to choose baquets or French bread, white wine or red wine) as if she's already my GF .....WTF?? Why in the fu&k am I doing this pathetic crap. What triggers it, why am I doing it, what can I do to stop doing (something about texting makes me act this way, is their a PUA lingo word for it n if u can please give a complete meaning and/or definition or this type of behavior??

PUA lingo calls this needy behavior.

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Niice thanks for the new perspective n positive feedback.

pua lingo: "seeking validation"
solution: quit complimenting her. quit praising her. that's what a low value man does.

just because she was lucky and she was born with nice genes that doesn't mean she is a god. and women dont care about compliments as much as you think they do. they really dont. unless she is fat.

"those are nice shoes" "I love your eyes"
you think you are going to get in her pants because you complimented her? you dont think she has heard those 100 times (just in the past hour)?

and quit being a bitch and lead her like a boss.

Sending pictures instead of "Hey hows it going?" is a million times better.

I'll sometimes take a snap of my delicious pizza and send it to the girl I know is on a diet with the caption "How much do you hate me right now?". That's fun. However, I'm not gonna overdo it and end up murdering the moment by extending it way past it's life span.

Your actions are not the problem. Your intentions are. You're doing these things for validation, not for genuine enjoyment.

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Start treating the hot ones like you would any other girl.

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You have to learn to have them and let them go man.

Trying to capitalize off of every single hot girl you see is a sure way to land yourself into this situation. So you have to practice self control outside of these situations.


Next time you get a hot girls number. Just delete it. Learn to let them go before you try. This will train you to more comfortable being yourself while interacting with them. And not trying to impress. If it was easy as "just stopping" you wouldn't be in this situation. You gotta give something up, you gotta make a sacrifice. Approaching is a sacrifice that teaches you not to give a fuck as well. But if you aren't ready for that, practice walking away from women you have a chance with.

Somethings gotta give. It ain't just going to fix itself.

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nice feedback thank you for the 're-reinforcement. I've noticed that now society tells us men to become passive, to tone it down, that's it's ok to be gay, never raise your voice to a woman, etc., etc. In other words become a pathetic loser. The constant negative feedback from them makes us soft, stupid n passive. Thank God for this blog.

Raising your voice to a woman isn't a masculine trait, or to anyone for that matter. You can get your point across in a million other ways than losing your cool.

I think you should try Eddie's way first. Raising your voice is actually kind of weak imo. It shows you don't know any other way to express yourself. What's next hitting her? Nah man. Not cool.

Hitting a woman or even raising your voice to them is unacceptable. Your best "trump" card is to walk away n let them cool off first. My roommate when his girl(s) get stupid and/or moody. He doesn't argue nor fight with them, he just takes them home and drops them make. Making it "feel" that they screwed up. End of discussion.