I'm back(again).

A lot has happened since my last post here. I've met and got rejected countless more times, but I've also scored several times. Still not much better in approach random girls, but I'm getting better at chatting with them via text once I get their numbers. Met a few, never heard back after the initial meeting(never replied to my texts from that day on), but also made headway with few others.

Ok so much for the update. Here's why I'm posting:

If you guys go back to my very first post here, I came here trying to find solution to my relationship with 2 girls I like. As per Eddie's advice(and subsequent arm-twisting), I broke off all contact with both of them.

Now, months later, I get a text from one of them(the one from another city I've been talking to for the last year) and she wants to connect back with me. Eddie said I can "never talk to them again unless they walk up to you in person". Well, I think this is as close as I'm gonna get since she's in another city, so I replied and now we're heading towards building a relationship.

Herein lies my dilemma: I've been working on quite a few girls and now have 2 f-buddies and 3 more I'm about to accelerate(one I know for sure I can bag and 2 who are getting very cozy with me).

I really like this girl from another city, and I'm seriously considering moving there to be with her. 1 of the F-buddy is in the same city as this girl(she travels a lot for work and we've met a few times during her trips), and another I'm really cozy with is also in the same city.

Should I severe all ties with them all to concentrate on this one girl I really like?

Please, no.

Moving to another city just for a woman is one of the worst things you can do. You really don't know the real her. She's able to present her best self to you and hide anything negative.

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Dear God please do not move to a different city just for a woman lol.

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Well, truth be told, I've been contemplating moving to that city for a while because the pay is better and the opportunities are plentiful compared to the backwater town I'm in now. I just needed a bit of a push to make the plunge...

And there're definitely a LOT more game there, and the girls are a lot more friendlier and open.

The purpose of this post is to seek advice as to if I should continue to be a player, or severe all ties with all others and try to make it happen with this one.

Doesn't change my response

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Same here.

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Wow thanks for the overwhelming support and in-dept reply after taking all the factors into consideration.

There are no factors to take into consideration.

A woman is not an acceptable "push" you need in order to make a decision like moving to a different city. If those other reasons where valid on their own you would've already moved. Her being that final incentive makes her the reason you base your decision on. So don't.

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You're allowing yourself to be played by your emotions.

The girls that you're currently seeing don't have the same emotional appeal because you're sleeping with them and have easier access to them. They're pretty much conquered. That immediately changes the way you feel toward them emotionally. This new girl is "away" and so you are allowed to fantasize more about how things would be if you were with her, but realize that once she becomes "conquered" the emotions you feel for her will be similar to the ones you currently feel for the women you are dealing with.

You have to be wiser than what you feel. Feelings give life meaning, they aren't the meaning of life. You'll feel one thing today and one tomorrow.

Have her come to you if anything. You don't drop anything and move for a girl. It is her that must submit to you.

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I don't agree with the above. Getting out of a small town is a good idea, whatever your motivation needs to be.

The reverse of moving from a major city to a small town for a woman sounds like a terrible idea. But if you need this to light a fire under you, do it. You will not regret moving up in life and striving to be more.

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Not for a girl, especially one that you really don't know well. If that what pushes the OP, the OP is going to make more of an effort to make things work with this girl even if she starts pulling away, has a change of heart, or finds out that there is another guy in the picture. In essence, his investment in her will be high.

If the OP hasn't made the move to the city without her influence, the city hasn't been worth the move. If she is what makes it worth the move, will it be worth it if things go wrong?

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She did. I got her to come over for a week to see how we get along in person, and it went great. But she can't move to my town because of her career. Me on the other hand have no such attachments.

Ok. And if he does, and it fails, so? Then he can move on, in a place where he is now surrounded by single women. I've been in a small town and understand just how slim the pickings can be. Even people who are good with women start getting desperate when you literally know every attractive woman in town by name.
It's always worth moving to a bigger area. Always. Whatever the reason. I've encouraged people with crazy, impractical business models to move to the city too. I know they'll fail. And it's still worth it. Because they'll recover and be surrounded by opportunities.

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I just noticed this thread now and I haven't read the responses.

I hope everyone's advice is as similar as mine...

Hank seems like a nice fellow....His problem is that he Wastes a lot of time on the Internet talking to girls on the other side of the country. Due to his circumstances, business and family, he is unable to surround himself with women by living on these small towns/big village which has probably lead him to this forum.

I don't think he should move city for a girl, but I think he should move city to upgrade his life. Not just the women part.

This is a big step. I know I was glad to move away from my little bubble where I grew up and now live in a big city where I don't see the same faces everyday.

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