Hi, i'm looking for some advice on this situation. I think she's playing me but i'm not too sure what she wants. If she is playing me then why have we been talking every day for about a year or does she just want me to amuse her? We get on really well and make eachother laugh anyway.

Abit of background story is that i'm 30 and she's 43, we started chatting on pof last year and even though she said there's no chance of us meeting when we first started talking she gave me her number few months later (I didn't continue to ask for it) and we've chatted every day since.
Anyway, since getting her number we've only chatted on SPAM. She's told me that she's shy and she never 'clicks' with guys even though she told me she has a friend with benefits and has told me plenty of times that i make her laugh and have the same humour as her. We've got tons of inside jokes including sending eachother pics with our pinky finger with different things. Recently i think she's letting me even more in to her 'personality' as she's quite wacky and always texts me about it for example texting me saying she's just bought afew funny/silly signs for her wall at home as it's covered in them.

Today she had me seriously wondering if she is just stringing me along because we were talking and she said we live too far apart, even though we don't and then she said i'm too young for her to be anything but mates. I laughed that off and turned it around on her saying she's too old.
The conversation went on and i asked her if she likes it rough in the bedroom and if she likes being treated like a s**t sometimes. She replied with a chance would be a fine thing but then she said i couldn't handle her because she was a big feisty girl (she's not fat btw) so i asked her if she meant she likes being bossy and she said she did and that she'd wear me out. I replied with well i've never met a bossy woman that has worn me out yet and she said that i hadn't met her. Then she said she was tired and she was going to sleep.

I don't know what she means by all this because first she was saying i lived too far to meet as friends even though we live about an hour away and her f- buddy lives around that far away and plus she says she stays with a male friend some weekends to go hiking as she likes hiking but he lives longer than that away from her and plus she drives to his. I get that i'm too young for her to be anything other than mates but why would she first say that the chance would be a fine thing to be treated like a s**t in the bedroom once in a while to then say the oppostite that she likes to be bossy which she knows i'm quite submissive and she know's that i'd like that.

Sorry about the lenght of the message but any advice would be great, thanks

Sounds like you've been talking to this chick for a long long time. In order to give you the correct advice, I would have to actually read the messaging thread.

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I have been talking to her for ages, any advice?

You're still WONDERING if she's stringing you along? It's been a YEAR! Of course she is.

She told you flat out you weren't going to meet her. I'm struggling to figure out why the interaction didn't end there. This is not even pickup... You're being screwed with and you're actually still wondering, a year later.

Want to find out if she's just messing with you (if she even is a SHE - a year? Really? Could totally be a catfishing dude)? You say exactly this to her:

X, it's been a year and I think it's time we met. Are you up for that or are we going to keep this relationship virtual?

If she says yes, you have your answer.

If she says no, then delete her number and get on with your life. Real girls in person are much more fun, after all

If you're not ready to take action on this, you're on the wrong forum, my friend.

It's definitely a she and she's got kids. Her saying we were never going to meet didn't bother me as i've met afew women who have said that plus she said she was never going to give me her number.
I've left it a year until not meeting her as i'm not sure exactly what i want

Hey mate, I think you've wasted precious time on this one. Set clear goals and know what you want. She's using you.

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when was the last time you approached a woman?

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I... one year.

I'm sorry, I can't get over that.

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Nah dude.

She's in love with you I think and its just making her super nervous about wanting to meet up. So she's spending the year trying to talk herself up into a position in which she actually feels courageous enough to meet you. Girls are always worried for their safety man. And any guy waiting for a year could be planning something BIG. She's just has to be ready for that. She needs more time to feel you out. Every girls different man. You just found one of those special ones that needs a few years to prepare herself to meet the guy she likes. Give it two more years and I then ask for another meet up. Don't ask for now. Just continue to build comfort an attraction with her through whats app, and in 2 years invite her out and see what she says.

You may of found a keeper.

Good luck.

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She has kids, she should be trying like fuck to even get you to respond to her. Let alone YOU chasing HER wtf.

She's not interested in anything real with you. You're Nice Guy and when you tried escalating after god knows how long she's thinking "awe how cute he's trying" and may have a bit of fun with it via text flirting (what woman doesnt love to flirt) but beyond that nothing will happen.

Its a time sink, you can continue with it or free up your energy and your sanity for somebody worth your while. 1 year? This is beyond needy.

Hoping you're being facetious, if not you've got to be one of the worst self-proclaimed coaches I've come across in recent memory.

It's really really hard not to pick up on the sarcasm.

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Who keeps digging you out the grave? lol

Welcome back bro.

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