There is this girl at the gym and we always stare at each other... the problem is she always has headphones on and I personally believe that it's really rude to interrupt someone during a workout... it happens to me and I hate it..


I want to approach but don't know when and how not to come off as needy

You can't have your cake and eat it man.

Whether you're in the gym or at a nightclub the mind is going to give you some objection to make you feel comfortable not doing what it is your fear. You let it win and you walk away with nothing. Your life stays the same and you do not grow. You fight it, and you gain experience and elevate your status socially. Sounds like an easy choice to me.

Next time she stares at you, motion her to pull out her headphones by gesturing you pulling out headphones from your own ear. If she complies, you walk on over.

There is no perfect setting for an approach. Its either too quiet or its too loud. Its either too early in the day or its too late at night. There will always be something. You get good at this by doing it anyway. Doing it despite what you feel.

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Neediness is a feeling. It is impossible for you to come off needy specially off a first attempt.

The only way you'll come off needy is if you do annoying creepy shit.

But flirting with a girl, letting her know you like her and would like to invite her out, and making calibrated attempts is NOT needy.

Needy is when she clearly rejects your attempts and you keep going even though is evident she's not interested. Thats needy.

Hitting on a girl and creating an opportunity for you both to get to know eachother is NOT needy.

Man the fuck up, approach that girl, and CLOSE.

Eye contact is a clear approach invitation.

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It's quite easy to do so in fact. Neediness is easily picked up on by women.

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That's an excuse you've created to not approach. Recognize your own bullshit and do the opposite action.

You're acting like a victim and a bit of a bitch. Man up and do something. The longer yo wait the harder it will become AND If she realizes you are interested in her and aren't taking any action she'll lose all attraction to you.

"Hey Jane Fonda are you training for the Iron Man?"

What the f.....?

How about neediness is a mindset.. and it can make you feel a certain way? Mind you that experienced men will not feel it!!

So when I approach a woman, and have 6 girls I'm talking to in my phone, and can get sex at anytime, and don't give a shit how the interaction goes - she's going to sense I'm needy because it's a inescapable feeling?

Exactly. Neediness is NOT a feeling. Loneliness is a feeling and is symptomatic of a needy/scarcity mindset. If it helps guys frame it better use the word "Scarcity" rather than neediness to describe the energy/mindset to which you're operating from. To create a frame/mindset of "Abundance" you truly have to live life for you, and free yourself of outcomes especially with women - this is the "IT" ("I don't know girl he's just got IT") that women talk about when describing a guy they're insanely attracted to. "IT" is the antithesis of needy. OR stated differently, her realizing on an subconscious level that you're MORE invested in yourself than you are in her.