It's something that's been bugging me of late,once you get into to pick up you realise not everything is based on looks (but it does help).

There's a girl at work(GIRL A),of which we are mutual friends with another girl(GIRL B). Now the girl at work (GIRL A) keeps saying she's out of my league(GIRL B).... What does she mean. I don't personally think I'm ugly but she (GIRL A) always tells me I'm punching out of my league. ( I know what the phrase means,she's out of your league = too good for you) but why does she keep saying things like I need to find girl in my own League(GIRL A)

I'm not even trying to pursue (GIRL B) however (girl a) makes it seem that way and i shouldn't even think of trying to get with girl b. There's not attraction between me and girl a,but when i mention other girls she always puts me down basically. She keeps saying things like you need to work your way up etc etc :/

Because you're pursuing a girl thats making it her mission to put you down. How could anyone take you serious? You're dodging a huge bullet, you should be in complete agreement with her. That attitude should be beneath you.

Who cares what she means.. The questions is Why do you still want her?

The fact that you care what she thinks is the reason she isn't attracted to you in the first place.

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lol I think I may have confused this story.

Basically the girl at work we'll call GIRL A. The girl in question is GIRL B


GIRL A ( MY FRIEND AT WORK) is saying GIRL B( OUR MUTUAL FRIEND) is out of my league. I'm not attracted to girl a and i'm not pursuing girl b. I just think she's hot( i think a lot of girls are hot, not going to pursue them all) however when ever girl b's mentioned girl a always tells me i need to find girls in my own league.

From how you describe it girl A is probably into you. Or just an incredibly lame person.

Anyway, leagues are bullshit. I'm in a similar situation where a coworker commented more than once that a common friend of ours is "beyond my grasp". And in a sense it's understandable, from an outer perspective. It's a concept of demographics.
The common friend is about 24 and usually goes for guys in their late 20s / early 30s. The successful, sexy car, well on their way in life and all that good stuff type. Meanwhile I'm 22 and don't even own a car myself. On paper, that's not an ideal situation for me.

Point is, it doesn't come down to looks alone. I get why the coworker thinks the friend is "out of my league". She also has no idea what she's talking about, since I've been with the friend for a few months now.

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Why are you even associating with this freak?

Would you hold onto a vial of syphillis knowingly? Come on man, I hope you think a bit more highly of yourself than to concern yourself with what negative people say.

I'd examine the rest of the communications from the girl who says "she's out of your league" - does she put you down in other ways? other people?

If so, then I'd consider limiting contact. Negativity is draining and it IS affecting you emotionally and that's why you are posting about it here.

If she's not negative in other ways then I'd say that your default behaviors aren't terribly attractive. She intuitively knows that the hotter girl is going to go for the guys with the most attractive behaviors and she's not feeling it from you and so is just stating what appears to her to be a fact. It's still rude as shit, though.

Work on becoming an ATTRACTIVE guy behaviorally. Lots of material on this forum for that.

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To be fair i'm making her sound like a bitch( she kind of is. but unknowingly) She can be like this with everyone it's just her nature. However there's always a hint of truth in what he says which makes me second guess myself.

Hey, it's good to see you come over here. You're one of the few PUA coaches who's legit, and you're literally the only routine based one, that I'm aware of and respect.

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