Hey guys,

Sometimes I game hard in my home town. The advantage is that it's easy to build rapport through common friends or other local commonalities. Downside is that your interactions and reputation are under a magnifying glass.

What happens to me a lot, is that I kind of sloppy number close if a girl is mildly interested in going out or whatsoever. Last week I had another flake, and the problem is, I am sure I will run into her again later.

Now I don't really now how to handle this?

1. Ignore it ever happened and start the interaction over? Like we are just people who know each other?
2. Ask her openly why she did not communicate? Or if the number is wrong? WHatever?
3. Freak out on her and bust her balls?

I'm really doubting about this? The point is, I realized, the more positive interactions you have, with mulpiple people (especially non-pickup interactions) will raise your status, and girls will start pointing out the single girls that they might think are suitable for you. So even with flakes, I rather be friendzoned and use the friendzone to open new opportunities? Thats why I want to do this right.

Any advice?

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Flakes happen because you didn't generate enough interest or attraction before you set up the date.

Address the problem pre-emptively, would be my suggestion. Get less flakes by doing a better, more solid job when you make your first connection with the girl.

Now what do you do in your case -- answering your question: depends how she flaked honestly. Legit reason? Were you at all to blame? I wouldn't let her have it... It's like burning a bridge in a job interview. Why bother? Gets you nowhere.

If you're interested - make another attempt... And as I noted above: do better this time.

Confronting her about it is hardly a wise decision. Treat it like it is - not a big deal.

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What do you think calling her out will do? Make her say.. " OMG lets go out now then." ?

She knows she flaked and she will remember. If you still have interest in her after the flake its a sign that its not a big deal to you because you're still willing to communicate with her and you're still attracted to her. And if she can flake and keep your interest, why not flake if you're not feeling like going out? Whats the consequence?

You're reaction seeking and that will blow you out 10 times out of 10.

Don't bring it up, just create a higher level of attraction this time. You should of been too busy meeting with other girls to even remember yourself. Thats the spirit that will further endear her to you.

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Hey Eddie,

Great advice! I think you hit it right on the spot there and thats what I will do!

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