There's this hb at work that I only saw her few times . First time I saw her she was sending IOIs and had that seductive smile. Mind you, she works at the bar and she's always busy to talk to , and I only saw her 2-3 times in the 2 weeks I started working. I only have time for a small chat until we part our ways to do our work .

Anyways, got shit tested last night
She asked me
Her "so how was your shift?"
Me "oh man I got creamed"
Her " oh really ? Who creamed on you"
At this point i ddnt really paid attention since I was exhausted and was focusing in something else .
Next thing I know her coworker friend was giggling and told her that she needs to Stop.

Then she said " ok blackendstars , I'm sorry " as if though she didn't mean it

I was puzzled and unresponsive .

Later when we were leaving she asked if I had any plans and I said not really but we all could go hang at a bar close by. She declined since she had work the next morning.

When we were saying our good byes I leaned in to hug her with one arm and she awkwardly said "uh okay"

This has both bothered and fascinated me. She was obviously attracted to me, but that attraction was gone basically after the shit test .

I know that I DLV myslef yet can't figure out if I still could have a shot with her.
Is it true that once the damages are done then there's no point persuading her ? Or am I overthinking this

What should I do next time I see her?

When she said oh ok I would have acted like their was something on her shoulder or something instead of a hug.

you call that f**king advice?

So who told her to stop giggling?

And this might sound silly, but what does creamed mean?

well, there's this new bartender who basically started with me at the restaurant. they are kind of new friends since they work with eachother while I work by waiting tables.
and she didn't tell her to stop giggling, she was giggling and told her she needs to stop (as like teasing me with getting creamed by someone lol)

Creamed, IDK meaning that I got crushed by the heavy work

Why so reactive? Everything you did past the point of her throwing a sexual innuendo your way was a reaction to just that. She threw you a bone dude, you went for the hand.

Take it for what it is. Enjoy it in the moment and don't have a wet dream about it at night.

Anyway you didn't fuck up per se. Maybe you were a bit too eager but it's not the worst thing in the world.

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how? what did i do wrong then?
All i did was just smile and said nothing cuz all of a sudden hearing her friend giggling and telling her to stop, I couldn't think of anything constructive to react positive to her playful insult .

I'm going to see her today. ever since the awkward hug, All I am thinking now is how should I act around her.
what would you do if you were in my shoes? would you tease her? would you keep your distance?

You're still doing it. You had one awkward hug and now you're being reactive to that. How do you act because of that. See where this is going?

You didn't just smile, you asked her to hang out and then half-assed and attempt to hug - which it why it was awkward. Why even hug? If you're gonna do something like that just kiss her on the cheeks.

Anyway, it's not a big deal. These things happen. I've banged girls' heads against the wall while having sex in an attempt to pull off some suave moves. Laugh it off dude. Her opinion of the situation will largely be based not on what happened, but on how you react towards what happened.
Does that make sense?

What I'm saying is, if you bang her head against the wall and then laugh it off, she'll laugh with you and think nothing of it.
On the other hand, if you start feeling all awkward and insecure, she'll feel the same way.

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Yea gotcha thanks for the advise

lol

It sounds like you're freaking out, and I am a bit shocked that you're letting one girls opinion of you have this much influence over your actions. Forget the silly thing you looked at as a shit test, whats really ruining your chances is the fact that you give two shits about what she thinks of you. Who the hell is she? The queen of england? Lord jesus.

If respect can be lost, respect can be gained. If attraction can be lost, attraction can be gained. Theres always an opportunity, but take the panties off asap. You're freaking over nothing.

She's not important. I don't care if you like her or not. She is not important.

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your comment made me realize I was over thinking this way too much. I just needed this. Thank you