Back story- I get this girls number through a friend who showed me a pic of them two. We text back & forth exchange instagram/snapchat acounts. A week of texting & I set up date and. She flakes & says her friends were taking too long to get ready & it was getting too late (work the next morning)

I say "OK cool maybe nextime" Two weeks go by and I get text from her but it was a late Friday night and I was clubbing for my birthday so I didn't answer.

I don't tolerate flakes like at all!! So today makes it a month of freezing out. so the text convoy goes

Me: were you just in the mall? (I work at a mall)
her: no lol
Me: well i just seen your twin then
her: doubt it
me: lol you tryna say your 1 in a million and there's no one else out there like you?
Her: exactly lol
Me: doubt it ( Pretty sure this is where I went wrong)


Like I said b4 I hate a flake. So if she bites cool. If not cool. On to the next. the texts above was sent while I was bored at work with nothing to do. that "were you just at the mall" text was right out my ass... it works more than it fails.

tell me what I did wrong/right & what could've I said differently . Just please no cheesey old pua tricks that don't work on modern day field

Props on the username.

The fact that you said you thought you saw her could lead her to feel like she's on your mind which will boost her ego. Not only that, you set her up to compliment herself. Not a big deal though, because social interactions are spontaneous and hindsight is 20/20.

Anyway, nothing wrong with your initial line, but you could have teased her a bit after she said she wasn't at the mall. You could have said something like that you totally saw some chick with some undesirable/absurd feature or style of dress/hairstyle/makeup, and that you could have sworn it was her... at least that's how you remember her.

This will generate a reaction from her (an lol or "jerk"). From there, you can change the subject or set up another date. If she reacted with a "I look good" type of text, make her prove it. She may refer you to her Facebook, Instagram, or send you a recent pic. At that point, you tell her you're well aware of chicks taking pictures with angles to make themselves look better. She will feel pressure to prove you wrong and will usually result in a date.

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How does freezing her out for a month help your situation at all? What value did you bring to her life so that she would - at all - miss you during that time?
Freezeouts may work if she's at least a bit invested in you.

Other than that, don't text her when you're bored. Text her when you wanna talk to her.

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appreciate the advice bro! I swear I was going to go with the "prove it" line but talked myself out of it.. damn!

I feel like when i think out what to say it ends up biting me in the ass. What would you do next if it were you?

& I didn't really FREEZE her out, I was just going on with my life & she wasn't someone I would think about. & I learned to not text when im bored. But I find it easier to text when I'm bored this way I just say watever comes to mind especially with a flake.

Only reason I still want to recover is because she's a 9 in the face. Body is okay. But I'm a face guy. She needs to know that she wants me lol

any follow up text ideas would be appreciate. I like this learning thing lol ant BTW she's 25 & I'm 28 both African American

Wow. I Initially read this like you guys were really young. Honestly man, you're going about this a little childishly and it makes me think that this girl hasn't heard the reason why you got her number. How is it a date if she is waiting for friends to get ready? Why not just pick up the phone and call her and say that you'll come pick her up on "x" day without the tagalongs?

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When I say " I don't tolerate flakes at all"

What I mean by that is.. If a girl flakes on me she will never have an opportunity to see me ever again in life. I don't care if 3 months passes and she texts me asking me if she can come over my house and blow me, I will not respond. And because I am so strongly rooted in this attitude, women do not flake. Its not something I say, its just built in my frame. I value myself too much to ever let someone disrespect my time. No second chances, no excuses.

It took a lot of walking away and life test to get to this point. When you're not strongly rooted within it, you will be tested over and over until there is no denying that you will walk without you having to do it.

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The text sounds like something you grabbed off the internet. None of YOU was in it. It was a fabricated story out of the blue designed to impress. It may work on a girl you're currently talking to, but in this situation it didn't stand a chance.

I say let it go.

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My biggest issue is texting. Once I meet a girl I don't have any issues. It's just this situation where we haven't even met. I found out from the very 1st day that she doesn't like talking on the phone.. 95% of girls nowadays prefer texting... I've dated girls older than me that would call instead of texting.

about the date night... her 3 roommates were getting ready to go out on their own.. and they all took a very long time. That's her story. Do I believe it. Nope I can build value in person but can't build value over text with someone I've never met.. my issue

Her being African American changes how I would handle that. Granted, I don't know her personality, so I would require some calibration to get a good feel of her; but from my experience of dating AA chicks is that goofy lines like the first bit I gave you probably won't fly. I'd go with more DHV and an alpha frame, but I have a feeling your ship has sailed.

Again though, I don't know your situation, but if you still want to see what's up with her, I think you're going to have to come at her hard and be direct.

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